Tommy,
I am on the side of posters who say the dealer not letting you try the tractors (and
FEL) you are interested in is BS. I have never heard of such things. When new tractor shopping 3 years ago every single dealer (2 Kubota, 1 NH, 1 Case, 1 Cub Cadet, 1 JD, and 2 MF) all let me try out tractors/FELs and a couple with BH's on their side yards. A couple even had a dirt pile and said just go play for a few minutes. Granted, I was not a first time tractor buyer, but that really should not make a difference. A tractor dealer not letting you try the machine(s) you are interested in is like a car dealer not letting you test drive the cars you are interested in ("you might put 10 miles on it", "you might scratch it backing out of the lot", "you might get dirt on the floor mats"). Come on... Tractor dealers have spray paint and know darned well how to detail the machines just like car dealers do.
It sounds like that dealer does not really want your money. Find a new dealer, NOW. Even better, go try out some different brands just to compare. Then go back to the the PITA dealer and tell them all the things you really liked about the other brands and why BrandX is better and tell them you are ready to buy one of them. I'm actually very serious about that. Again, its the same as buying a car in that if the dealer knows you are really serious and have other options or better deals on the table he will probably change his tune very quickly.