Michelle, I would suggest that you do a search on TBN for "grapple remote valve" and you will find a number of posts that describe how to do this. The main thing you need to determine first is what sort of quick connects came with the grapple. Markham sometimes sends flat quick connects which are not very useful for tractor owners. You need Pioneer style quick connects you can get from any tractor dealer or via the internet. You'll need to check that you have a set of rear remotes if that is what you are trying to use. I presume the JD5103 has at least one set standard and you can use those to control the grapple. You'll also need two lengths of 3/8 or 1/4 inch hydraulic hose (3/8 probably better) which are long enough to go from your rear remotes, over the rear axle, under the operator station, up the front end loader post and down the FEL arm to the torque tube (bar that connects the two sides of the loader). Use a hose to measure the length of hose and perhaps add a foot or two to make sure. Don't pull the hose tight as you need to have enough hydraulic hose to allow gentle turns without kinks. Once you have that measurement, just have a hydraulic shop make you up a hose with appropriate fittings for the pioneer style quick connects (1/2 inch is what will fit your rear remotes...you'll need to either match what ever is on the grapple or get new ones for both the grapple and the grapple end of the hose.
IslandTractor is correct - my Markham grapple came with 1/2 inch skid skeer couplings (Flushface Hydraulic Quick Disconnects).
Before I purchased the grapple, I had purchased a 4 in 1 bucket. It too came with skid steer couplings. To run the hydraulics on the bucket, I had purchased my hydraulic lines/couplings from
Discount Hydraulic Hose.com. They were very helpful and had great prices.
Anyway, as my rear remote was an agricultural coupling (which I assume is the same as pioneer style), I purchased hydraulic lines that I ran from the rear remote (and might I say that IslandTractor is correct to add a foot or two - you can always hide the extra, but if they are too short you are SOL) to the front boom. I had purchased agricultural couplings for both ends and a set of agricultural couplings to replace the skid steer couplings on the 4 in 1
Then my grapple arrived, with skid steer couplings. Now, I had to buy a set of couplings either way and after discussion with my local friend who runs a tractor, decided to switch everything on the front end to skid steer couplings. I put the skid steer couplings that came with the 4 in 1 back on and purchased a new set of skid steer couplings for the end of the hydraulics on the boom.
The reasoning was that it appears that any skid steer type quick attach implement seems to come with skid steer couplings. I figure that if I rent an attachment for the front end, it likely is going to have skid steer couplings.
The downside is that the skid steer coupling is more expensive. The upside is they are easier to connect/disconnect and they don't leak any hydraulic fluid. The ags seem to leak a little each time I connect/disconnect.
Anyway, thats my thought processes. Oh yeah, my friend may be a little self serving...the front end of his JD is plumbed with skid steer and I'm sure he wants to use my grapple!