You are absolutely correct. Water in the front or rear tires puts less strain on the axles than putting on weights of equal weight. It will create a bit more strain on the fronts when turning if you are running in road gear but at normal operating speeds it would be negligble as far as excess wear. We ran water in all the tires on our big farm tractors and never, I said never had any issue with steering and I am talking about up to 10,000+hours on a tractor. There just isnt that much force generated at slow speed to cause damage. I have no idea why mfgs. say not to fill front tires as tie rod ends on my tractors look plenty heavy to handle the centrifical forces generated without an issue.
As far as turning the front wheel dish, I cant see this being any harder on the wheel bearing either, just transferring the load from outside bearing to inside bearing. It does make it harder to steer though due to the wider distance and more force required to turn the wheel which will cause more wear to the steering arms tie rod ends.One thing to consider when setting the tire track: Make sure it fits on your trailer. My LS fronts were wider than the rears when I got it. I didnt notice this till I was putting it on the trailer and had to run the fronts over my fenders to load it. Luckily fenders are quiet strong on my trailer. Rears fit just tightly against the fenders @83" in width. I adjusted the fronts to match the centerlines of the rear by moving them in about 4".