In remembrance of my son.

[adjusterr]

Having lost my 14 year old son Jason to suicide, July 10, 1990, I understand the pain the loss of a child brings. I find some comfort in the memories of the hunting, fishing, and motorcycle riding we shared. The pain never really goes away but it seems time has been my ally, it has taken the sharp edge off my grief and allows me to recall the good times we had. Although your life will never be the same, you will learn to live around the sadness and you will find that you will be able to laugh again and find joy in life through your family and friends. I wish you well Brother.

 

[chad22]

Sorry for your loss. I lost a cousin around 6 years ago, who was 15 at the time due to an atv (four wheeler accident) according to the investigation the throttle had locked in full speed position and he had just told his friend goodbye and waved to him as he was heading back home.

He went through a fence and a piece of rebar went through his chin and through his brain and killed him instantly. He was brain dead but his heart was still beating, they was able to transplant his heart to a man that needed one. So part of him is still living on.

Chad

 

[chad22]

Sorry for your loss. I lost a cousin around 6 years ago, who was 15 at the time due to an atv (four wheeler accident) according to the investigation the throttle had locked in full speed position and he had just told his friend goodbye and waved to him as he was heading back home.

He went through a fence and a piece of rebar went through his chin and through his brain and killed him instantly. He was brain dead but his heart was still beating, they was able to transplant his heart to a man that needed one. So part of him is still living on.

Chad

 

[dmccarty]

Getting close to a decade ago, I would drive our oldest to and from school. We would go through a subdivision that was off a very busy road. That road had a bus stop for the subdivision and one across the street. The problem was that the bus stop for the subdivision was on the other side of the road so kids would have to cross that busy intersection. One morning a child was waiting as usual for the bus in her dad's car. She saw the bus driving up, got out of the car, darted across the road and was hit by a car which killed her. The car's driver was not at fault since the bus was still down the road and had not even gotten close to the intersection. The girl and the father simply were not paying attention.

Here is something I HOPE the father of the child NEVER realizes but I am afraid he has. It was his fault on so many levels. All he had to do to prevent that accident was to DRIVE his car to the other side of the street to park and wait for the bus. But that would require him to make a left turn across traffic which would have taken him a bit of extra time so he stayed on the other side of the road which allowed him to quickly and easily make a right turn with traffic so he could get to work. I hope he never figures this out because I don't know how he could live with himself. He literally put his ease of getting to work over his child's safety. He was at the intersection every day for months and years so he had to know the danger but he did nothing to remove the danger to his child. All he had to do was cross the street in his car and wait....

I really hope he never figures it out.

Later,
Dan

 

[familyman]

Getting close to a decade ago, I would drive our oldest to and from school. We would go through a subdivision that was off a very busy road. That road had a bus stop for the subdivision and one across the street. The problem was that the bus stop for the subdivision was on the other side of the road so kids would have to cross that busy intersection. One morning a child was waiting as usual for the bus in her dad's car. She saw the bus driving up, got out of the car, darted across the road and was hit by a car which killed her. The car's driver was not at fault since the bus was still down the road and had not even gotten close to the intersection. The girl and the father simply were not paying attention.

Here is something I HOPE the father of the child NEVER realizes but I am afraid he has. It was his fault on so many levels. All he had to do to prevent that accident was to DRIVE his car to the other side of the street to park and wait for the bus. But that would require him to make a left turn across traffic which would have taken him a bit of extra time so he stayed on the other side of the road which allowed him to quickly and easily make a right turn with traffic so he could get to work. I hope he never figures this out because I don't know how he could live with himself. He literally put his ease of getting to work over his child's safety. He was at the intersection every day for months and years so he had to know the danger but he did nothing to remove the danger to his child. All he had to do was cross the street in his car and wait....

I really hope he never figures it out.

Later,
Dan

Why do you think that he doesn't know? His suffering is immeasurable.

 

[dmccarty]

Why do you think that he doesn't know? His suffering is immeasurable.

Given that he never recognized the danger in the first place, I hope he never figures out the simple step he could have done to prevent the accident. His suffering is immeasurable with the loss of his girl. I think his suffering would be unbearable if he ever realizes that this accident was preventable.

Later,
Dan

 

[kidr]

Maybe it's time to start installing cell phone disabling devices in cars. The # of deaths and injuries attributed to cell phone use is appalling .

 

[familyman]

Maybe it's time to start installing cell phone disabling devices in cars. The # of deaths and injuries attributed to cell phone use is appalling .

I agree with you, this cell phone thing has gotten out of hand and it's killing people. It killed my son.
Like so many things though, we tend to want to control the activity by controlling the device.
My suggestion would be to make the penalties mean something, something this society is always reluctant to do. If it's proven that you caused an accident while using a cell phone, automatic 5 years in jail. If someone dies in that accident, automatic 25 years.
I thinks that's the only effective means of control.
Meanwhile, no one takes it seriously.
We live in an irresponsible society and a very dangerous world.
I'm glad my son had the 16 years of life that he lived. None of us has a guaranteed amount of time, but we had damned sure better start valuing life and taking better care of each other than we do.

 

[fritoman4]

With respect, I must correct you there.

One does not get over the pain. You live with it, every day for the rest of your life. A part of you withers, another part goes numb, yet another slowly strengthens. However, you are no longer you. It is a kind of death for the parent as well.

Achingback, Mossflowerwoods and Sutol understand this. It's my great hope that none of the rest of you ever will.

I visit the TBN site almost daily to gain as much info and knowledge from everyone here but rarely post. I felt compelled to post today because I too lost a son. 13 yrs ago to Huntingtons disease. He would have been 21 this year on Jan.3rd. Think of him every day and always wonder. Familyman just nailed it, you never get over it.

 

[jimmyj]

Wow, what a discussion. I am so sad for those of you who've suffered these losses. God be with you all.