Sigarms said:
Not to get off the subject, but how did the treadmill end up at your FIL's house in the first place?
As mentioned before, take one day, go out of your way to be sincere and nice, and bite the bullet, move everything out, and be done with it forever.
Then again, you may need to 86 the lawyer son who could be a pain in your butt forever
She was buried yesterday and here's an update. First, to answer Sig's question, they have been living together for about 15 years. During that 15 years she not only kept HER house "running" as they'd stay there on an infrequent basis...but most of her life operation was done out of his house. When she had some health issues a couple years ago, she bought the treadmill and had it at her 'primary' residence (his house) so she'd be able to have easy access to it. Her house is probably a solid hour away and since they mostly hung out in our area, her things simply collected here.
Now, to the funeral. Although I was not part of the conversation, I DID happen to hear a couple snippets between FIL and son.
FIL: "well... I do have some of her things still at my house and in her closet"...blah blah...
Son: blah...blah... I'll get a truck and get there to pick her things up
FIL: blah...blah... There's no rush...after all, it's been there for YEARS (his emphasis)...blah... blah...
Son: (laughing) So a couple more weeks won't hurt anything...
It was at this point that I continued walking past them and didn't hear any more of the talk. I WAS glad to see it was brought up and his comments.
Just to give you an idea of what an idiot I think this son is... we've been out to lunch/dinner SEVERAL times as a group (my FIL/Virginia, my wife, Virginia's son and his wife) They hardly spoke to us at all, directing their conversation to Virginia only. Also... he called FIL's house once and Virginia wasn't there. Seems FIL was napping at 5:30 or sometime around dinner. He was a bit groggy and the son asked if he was sleeping. His answer was yes he was (as if it's anyones business?). The son asked "do you have a clock" FIL a bit groggy... "why....uh... yes??" and the son said "well go LOOK at it" and he then commenced to hang up on FIL. Seems he (son) was rather put out that FIL was taking a nap and ever since that specific day, the son was never welcomed out to FIL's house and FIL never went over to visit with Virginia at her son's house. My FIL took a real dim view to the disrespect and attitude shown.
Perhaps I'll wait a couple weeks and ask FIL how it's going with the guy and if there's been no contact nor pickup...maybe I'll call the son on the side and simply tell him that if he'd like me to take her things and donate them to goodwill/other... let me know and then he won't even need to come out our way. (we live almost an hour from him too... since his mother had moved back to her house several months prior, MOST of her belongings were taken with her, so he might not want to even bother with the residual things)
Over all though... my FIL did deal with this and I honestly did NOT think he would so I was smiling (behind his back) for him.