... I put a jumper wire into the starter connection after unplugging from the relay and she fires up. I also try to wiggle the key in the ignition switch and that does nothing....
This is NOT a battery cable problem.
Nick: Please clarify exactly what you are jumpering to make it crank. Are you jumping pins on the connector for the start relay? Or ate you jumping at the starter?
When you first turn the key, the loud "clack" is the stop solenoid retracting; that's normal and it's what allows the injection pump to send fuel to the injectors.
You probably can't hear the glow relay (because of the loud stop solenoid) but the fact it starts cold implies the glow system is working. If is still started good cold after swapping the relays, both (start and glow) relays are likely OK unless it's really heat-related.
It could be the ignition switch (which I doubt) but here's a test for that. When it won't crank, unplug the switch and (on the engine-side connector) simultaneously jump from the 12x input to the start and "on" leads. For that matter, you could short all four leads together. If the switch is the problem it should crank when you do this but I suspect it won't. I suspect your problem is in the cruise unit, which provides the ground signal for the start relay coil.
This cruise unit has a safety feature to prevent starting in gear or if the PTO is engaged. Do you get a good neutral lamp on the dash before you try to crank? If not, that's your problem. Are you sure the PTO is not engaged? If you can locate the coil ground wire at the start relay, you can test this by measuring the voltage on that wire when you turn the key to crank. With the key "off" or just "on" you should see near zero volts on that wire. When you turn the key to crank, you should still see near zero volts on that wire if the cruise unit is providing the ground to allow cranking. If you see near 12v on that wire when you try to crank, either the cruise unit is not working or it is getting a faulty input that indicates you are not in neutral or the PTO is engaged. Be sure you are looking at the ground-side of the coil and not the 12v side that comes from the ignition switch.
Assuming the cruise unit appears to not be working right, you can test that by jumping the ground side of the start relay to chassis ground, which bypasses the safeties of the cruise unit. Just be careful you have the right wire or you'll blow fuses. If it starts normally when you do this you need to determine if the cruise unit is bad of if the neutral or PTO input is bad.