You seem to want to ignore that there is some kind of voltage drop across contacts in the safety circuit. This is a fact since the starter motor solenoid does not properly activate, but does work as designed when other means are used to apply battery voltage to the solenoid.
You appear to want to claim that any 12 VDC relay will work to fix the problem. But you have no specific measurements or data to back up this claim.
Why would one recommend use of a relay that MIGHT work, when a relay designed for use in 12 VDC systems, and which is guaranteed to activate at voltage as low as 7 VDC is readily available and
proven to work well in this application?
Your whole argument, which offers great opportunity to confuse, is based on the likelihood that the chosen interposing relay will draw less current than the starter solenoid. This is almost certainly true. But without taking measurements of circuit characteristics and having a specification sheet of the relay being applied,
one can only guess, but not be sure, that a given relay will work.
So one can do one of two things:
1) Use a relay that is proven to work in this application,
and will likely still continue to work if the safety circuit contacts continue to degrade, OR,
2) Try any 12 VDC relay available, and see if it works. If it works,
hope that it will continue to work if the safety circuit contacts continue to degrade.
Confusing? Not really.
Saving a couple bucks by following choice 2) was not worth the risk to me personally. Others may feel different, no problem with that. Hopefully the decision will be made with full understanding of costs and risks of each choice...
I think we beat this horse to death. You are welcome to have the last word...
Bill
Edit: I guess there is a choice 3) Do nothing like I have done for the last three years and enjoy performing the "click, click, click...Click" Ritual....