Gary,
These instructions will work for all versions of the NH TC35,40, & 45 tractors with either the 16LA or 17LA installed.
Take a look at the hydraulic manifold inside your right rear tire just above the axle. This is the manifold that you'd attach any rear remotes to. The outer cover plate normally comes with just one hyd (male) QC fitting screwed into it. This is the fitting that your BH's short hose (pressure out) will connect to.
If you have any rear remotes attached to that manifold then you will have to get a hose kit that includes a replacement cover plate for that manifold. (I know that Woods has one shown in the photos) This replacement cover plate must include both the pressure out (male) and pressure return (female) QC fittings. The BH's long hose (pressure return) would connect to that female QC, but since you probably don't have the modified manifold cover plate the BH's long hose will have to be routed forward over the axle and connect to the hyd hose coming from the FEL controller.
NOTE: If you do have rear remotes and don't get the modified cover plate then the rear remotes will not work when the BH is connected.
Pictures will hopefully be the 1000 words to explain this.

This is the modified hyd manifold cover plate inside right rear tire for use with rear remotes. The original cover plate will be missing the red highlighted fitting.

Connect BH short hose (pressure out) to the male QC on this manifold cover plate. The BH long hose (pressure return) will connect to a female QC either at this modified cover plate or up forward to the FEL controller's hyd hose.

Looking under FEL controller, you will find two steel hyd lines and one hyd hose coming from the FEL controller and connecting to the hydraulic block manifold/diverter valve.

Close up of hydraulic block manifold/diverter valve. Disconnect the FEL hyd hose from the hydraulic block manifold/diverter valve QD and connect it to the BH long hose (pressure return) that you routed forward over the axle.
When you remove your BH, make sure that you reconnect the FEL's hose back to the forward hydraulic block manifold/diverter valve.
If you did by chance have the modified cover plate and used that instead of the FEL hose, then those QCs would need to be connected to each other. This is necessary to prevent your hyd system from dead heading. BAD
I hope this helps and wasn't too confusing.
Curious why you want to connect a BH to 3pt instead of a subframe.