I don't tell my wife what to do with her money and she doesn't tell me what to do with mine. We have separate bank accounts and we both work. I will say though that I waited til she was away on a trip for a week to get the tractor. When she rolled up the driveway there was Krusty. Could have been worse ...a blond. I have a gravel driveway and having it paved is so far down the list of what I want that it's not even on the radar. The way I feel (I'm 57 and have been married 30 years) is you will only live so long so you'd better scratch an itch rather than take it to the grave to make someone else happy. Now if you plan to use her money or really deprive your family to buy the tractor that's another story. My advice applies to women as well. Oh yes three years later I bought a mini excavator without asking or waiting for her to go on vacation.