My advice would be to check out the Survival Podcast and listen to the Steve Harris episodes. He goes through all of the ramifications of the "Suicide Plug" used in backfeeding. Keep in mind that the plug itself can be dangerous to you and your equipment if not used properly. You may think you're perfectly safe using it, but you have to consider that your wife or kids may knock the plug out and pick it up.
Depending upon where you live, you may be able to backfeed legally using an interlock, which is just a piece of metal that covers the main breaker when you close the breaker with the receptacle for your backfeeding plug. Keep in mind that if you backfeed and do not open the main breaker, or someone closes the main breaker when the generator is attached, you could injure or kill anyone working on grid.