OK, I sat and looked at it closely today, and when I thought about taking a picture, the camera was in the truck that had went to get lunch, yeah, likely story I know.
Tomorrow, tomorrow, theres always tomorrow....
Anyway, so the flange looked like crap, I thought, well, they told me about some repair parts, so I reached down and touched it, and the ears were just falling apart. OK, so grab the hammer (beat it too fit, paint it too match) and tap on it gently. The closet flange tapped off nicely and left a nice round expanded portion of the pipe there. I think it had to be made in two pieces that way.
So I was at Lowes tonight buying new electrical panel etc. etc. (Hey this is getting expensive) and I go look at the closet flanges, and it looks like they have a 4 X 2 cast iron adapter ring that looks like the piece that is gone to crud on mine. SOOOOOO, with any luck, that is how I will go.
Will try and remember to grab pictures tomorrow, but tomorrow is also new Electrical box day, so it may be a LOOOOONNNNGGGGG day, or I may catch a break