<font color=blue>"As we are talking about his wife he said that he would not wish the dementia on ANYONE."</font color=blue>
<font color=blue>"Made me think quite a bit...."</font color=blue>
Dan,
I know exactly what you mean. Vince, one of my golfing buds, is going through the exact same thing with his wife right now. Vince retired about 2.5 years ago, and he and his wife had planned on taking off and traveling around in a big motor home they bought. Well, just before he retired, his wife is diagnosed with dementia. She's slowly gotten worse and worse over these last few years. Their motor home has never been driven. When Vince is able to play golf with us, he shows up looking absolutely exhausted, and generally mad at the world. We try to cheer him up, and are usually successful within a few minutes. But to hear what his wife puts him through, and he understands that its not her fault, is absolutely sucking him dry. He's said many times that he'd gladly work 18 hours a day until the day he dies if he could just have his wife back. I don't think I've ever seen anyone so miserable in their retirement. /w3tcompact/icons/sad.gif
After spending an afternoon with Vince, who is really a great guy, I remind myself how lucky my wife and I are. So I can definitely understand what your neighbor means.