dave1949
Super Star Member
Lots of good perspectives already.
There is another thing to consider. A young man with two children and separated/divorced already may have parents who missed a few steps themselves. People make their choices but, ending up in that position may mean he wasn't taught to make choices carefully. Or, he could be the Devil's Spawn who never listened to good advice. :laughing:
Whatever the past may have been, the future is what is important. People mature at different ages, perhaps he is running a little late. He is not in a good position and education can be the way to improve that.
If the degree he is pursuing is a useful one with a reasonable chance to make a living from it, then I can see the parents getting him over the hump for everyone's sake. If the degree is not going to be useful for earning a living, then there is no plan for success and that needs to be addressed.
If your friends ever ask, I would tell them to make clear to their son that the financial help ends in two years, by which time that degree should be finished. I don't consider grandparents baby sitting financial help really, many enjoy that time more than anything else in their lives. If they don't, or want less of that, then they need to communicate that.
Life is a generational progression of sorts. We had the same deal as MossRoad at home after high school. For the past five years, I've provided a place for my widowed Mom to live, and will continue to as long as she is able to live independently. I have no idea what comes after that. Life has two ends and a middle.
There is another thing to consider. A young man with two children and separated/divorced already may have parents who missed a few steps themselves. People make their choices but, ending up in that position may mean he wasn't taught to make choices carefully. Or, he could be the Devil's Spawn who never listened to good advice. :laughing:
Whatever the past may have been, the future is what is important. People mature at different ages, perhaps he is running a little late. He is not in a good position and education can be the way to improve that.
If the degree he is pursuing is a useful one with a reasonable chance to make a living from it, then I can see the parents getting him over the hump for everyone's sake. If the degree is not going to be useful for earning a living, then there is no plan for success and that needs to be addressed.
If your friends ever ask, I would tell them to make clear to their son that the financial help ends in two years, by which time that degree should be finished. I don't consider grandparents baby sitting financial help really, many enjoy that time more than anything else in their lives. If they don't, or want less of that, then they need to communicate that.
Life is a generational progression of sorts. We had the same deal as MossRoad at home after high school. For the past five years, I've provided a place for my widowed Mom to live, and will continue to as long as she is able to live independently. I have no idea what comes after that. Life has two ends and a middle.