Taylortractornut
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- Joined
- Mar 27, 2002
- Messages
- 2,909
- Location
- Iuka Mississippi USA
- Tractor
- 3550 Fard Backhoe and a 1948 Farmall Cub,
Hey guys how have the holidays been. As usual I need some advice. I think my dad has dementia or Alzheimer's. We work together at a rubbish landfill and never have gotten along all the time like most fathers and sons do. The last ten years I've done most of the hard work, mechanicing and all of the environmental work. Dad did the hiring firing and ran errands and trips to the main office and truck dispatch.
The last year or so I've noticed him slipping mentally, sending three trucks after the same dumpster, loosing things then accusing everyone of stealing that item. The other day my eldest brother that's 52 had a stroke. And was in a hospital my younger brother and mother used to be nurses at. Dad's demanding I call my brother and Check on my older brother. He hasn't worked there on 6 years. We argue over it dads calling me a liar then says call your mother and get her to check. My parents have been divorced for ten years and moms been dead for three.
I reminded him mom was deceased and he claims I just talked to her 4 or 5 days ago. I was floored to say the least. I asked him to go get chrome he'd for Alzheimer's and he swears his np says he doesn't have it or dementia. But the last few days have been unbearable the abuse he's doling out. I've taken over most of the dispatch but dad still insists on changing my drivers up.
Last week was our week off for Christmas And a couple of us and myself go in while we re down and do maintenance like we've done for 13 years. Well my brother that contracts excavation for the main plant was doing some demo work and hit a snag and wasn't going to make the deadline. I took my crew and helped get back on schedule and complete the job. I logged 89 hours and my crew about 72 yet he complains we didn't work hard enough.
We were off till the 3rd and I took that day. Dad comes in and goes off because I wasn't onsite. Then calls the whole crew asking why they weren't at work. I had to explain to him that we were off that day too. Not five minutes later I had to tell him again. I'm frustrated and worried at the same time. There's more things that happen I'm torn between calling HR and the feeling of betraying my dad. Does this sound like dementia or Alzheimer's or something else.
The last year or so I've noticed him slipping mentally, sending three trucks after the same dumpster, loosing things then accusing everyone of stealing that item. The other day my eldest brother that's 52 had a stroke. And was in a hospital my younger brother and mother used to be nurses at. Dad's demanding I call my brother and Check on my older brother. He hasn't worked there on 6 years. We argue over it dads calling me a liar then says call your mother and get her to check. My parents have been divorced for ten years and moms been dead for three.
I reminded him mom was deceased and he claims I just talked to her 4 or 5 days ago. I was floored to say the least. I asked him to go get chrome he'd for Alzheimer's and he swears his np says he doesn't have it or dementia. But the last few days have been unbearable the abuse he's doling out. I've taken over most of the dispatch but dad still insists on changing my drivers up.
Last week was our week off for Christmas And a couple of us and myself go in while we re down and do maintenance like we've done for 13 years. Well my brother that contracts excavation for the main plant was doing some demo work and hit a snag and wasn't going to make the deadline. I took my crew and helped get back on schedule and complete the job. I logged 89 hours and my crew about 72 yet he complains we didn't work hard enough.
We were off till the 3rd and I took that day. Dad comes in and goes off because I wasn't onsite. Then calls the whole crew asking why they weren't at work. I had to explain to him that we were off that day too. Not five minutes later I had to tell him again. I'm frustrated and worried at the same time. There's more things that happen I'm torn between calling HR and the feeling of betraying my dad. Does this sound like dementia or Alzheimer's or something else.
