TC I know you are passionate and upset about this whole issue but it seems some facts have gotten lost in the conversation. You need to sit back, calm down and rethink this thing. All these replies about adverse possession are pointless. You have said all the trees are at least 8" on your property, what is the problem? Yes he can trim them on his side, sounds like he has wanted to but ask you to so you would not get upset. Why would you get upset, he has to look at them if they are hacked up. He expressed an interest in removing his fence and waited 3 years for you to plant the trees that you promised, your words. After 3 years of waiting he removed the fence and you think "He broke his word plain and simple." It was 3 years of looking at a fence he didn't want, that seems patient to me. Your latest upset has to do with leaves and your mulch being messed up by his mower and blower. The trees are only 8" off the line, your mulch must be on his side, where he blows his leaves, on his property, is his business. The survey pin should not have been moved. We really don't know if he did it, if it was intentionally or unintentionally removed, if the phone company did it or someone else. Your not going to prove it so good luck getting him to pay to replace it. I guess you can move all those trees 3' in and then he can't trim them so his side is ugly and your mulch will be on your property. You better move them a little farther in so you have a walkway to work on his side of the trees without trespassing. It looks like your relationship with him is going that way. Guess I am just too slow to see what you gain with all this effort, expense, stress and anger.
MarkV
Passionate...yes Absolutely!!
Upset...yes but only in the heat of the moment and rightfully so. Disrespect is the first thing that comes to mind. And even after at least a dozen if not more incidents, I've never once lost it with this guy. Maybe I should have retaliated. Instead I've dealt with it by myself for the past 5 years and only recently put it out here on the forum to vent a little and see if my perspective is out of line. So far nothings been said that has convinced me to think otherwise.
Facts getting lost?? Not sure I follow you. My opening post questioned the legality of someone removing a property line pin. Everything else that followed, albeit a little wordy on my part...pertained to the backstory. It's all relevant and there's even more that I left out.
I agree the adverse possession comments aren't really applicable in this situation. I'm fully aware and for the most part, knowledgeable about the adverse possession statues for CT. I have ZERO interest in taking anyones land using this approach or any other way for that matter. I do know for a fact that I could pursue and be awarded ownership of the area (about 28" X 120') where the 40 mature trees have branches extending over the boundary line...this was discovered during a recent conversation with an atty and someone from the zoning board...both friends of mine. But what would be gained other than more hard feelings....nothing. All I want is for this guy to leave me and my property alone. He can do as he pleases anywhere else...just leave me and mine alone. Is that asking too much? Furthermore...zoning regulations limit his rights to what he is legally allowed to do with this 25' wide access strip...aka his driveway...this I just discovered this past week. The further this goes on the deeper he's digging himself into a hole.
Back in 96
this neighbor agreed to my planting ON the boundary line along a portion of his driveway with the understanding...not that I gave my word or promised...to continue this tree line to his corner of our properties. At NO time was any time frame discussed, just that I'd do it when time and $$ was available. The 8" came to being when my surveyor informed me that's where they actually were. When I continued the tree line in 07 I instructed my tree guy to follow the existing tree line. As it turns out, midway down this line the tree line stands 24" away from a marked boundary pin...nothing to dispute there. At the corner where the missing pin was located, my measurements show the tree line to be 36" off the line(I thought it was less), so I'll wait for the surveyor to reset the pin to be certain. This end of the tree line is where he feels he is losing his parking space due to the growing trees yet it now appears he isn't. If he doesn't know where his boundary line is, that's his problem. I paid for a survey...so can he! When he asked me to trim them back last spring for parking purposes (which I just recently found out is a zoning violation for that access strip) I baulked with severe sarcasm...and rightfully deserved based on his actions during the last 5 years. Thought it over for a day or so and went back to him and said I'd reconsider out of fairness and respect for himself and his property. I now think I was a fool to do it but it was the right thing to do. Spent the better part of the summer doing just that and found he still wasn't satisfied...he told me they didn't look any different. Sure he could trim them himself and either butcher or kill them and be responsible. But that's just another civil matter I'd rather avoid.
You ask what's the problem...the problem is twofold and I'll share the blame but only up to a point. He agreed to planting on the boundary line knowing the growth habits of Arborvitaes...and I knew very little about them at the time. He gave his word to leave the fence. His wife is the one behind the decision to remove it btw, not him...he told me this himself. He removed the fence knowing full well what would result. That's the 2nd problem. He broke his word not me. My share of the blame is my -eye for an eye- response by continuing the tree line even further on MY property across his front yard. Everything that's happened since is collateral damage. He made his bed...lie in it just as I've done. 3 years is not that long of time considering the grand scheme of what I'm doing with my property. As I already said, jealousy abounds due to everything I've done here and friends of his family have told me that. He forced my hand with continuing the tree line and he got what he deserved IMO. Some like yourself may disagree and that's fine, but unless you walked in my shoes, you can't even begin to understand. It took a great deal of self control on my part to restrain myself from retaliating and I can stand proud knowing I did. My decision to move the trees to a point of 3' off the line is the only logical way to end this from my perspective. Sure he may continue his antics and when he does I'll deal with it appropriately without the burden of being at his mercy because of where the tree line is. I won't allow it to become ugly or allow myself to get arrested, but I will say this...karma is a powerful word!
It's true the leaves, the mulch, the dog crap and all the other antics like taking stones from my stonewall, taking my fence charger and then tossing the balled up fence wire under the mature trees which I just found this past spring...and the list goes on...is not a world ending event. It just proves what type of person he really is. We were good friends and neighbors for over 17 years and it all came to an end over something so stupid. But I'm old enough to recognize its not worth losing sleep over. Maybe I was a little emotional with my explanations here, but that's who I am. All of this could have been avoided if he had simply said to me "hey my wife is tired of looking at the fence and wants me to take it down" Giving me a heads up would of at least allowed me to come up with a plan. If I got what I deserved so be it...but so did he. If you or anyone else here can convince me to think otherwise, I'm all ears.
As for proving who removed the corner pin...I set a trap, the bait was taken and I now have proof of who removed it. And it was intentional as I expected all along.
Once again I got a little wordy so shoot me
But honestly Mark, I do appreciate any and all criticism because it lets me see where my faults are so thanks for chiming in
Merry Xmas and happy holidays!