Hurricanes are very destructive to property, but nowadays, fairly friendly to humans. Depsite all the damage caused by Charley, there were only 20 deaths (IIRC) in an area where there are over a million people. And, most of those are due to coronary problems, and I've already got that /forums/images/graemlins/cool.gif . Seriously, most deaths are because people don't know their limits, and try to do too much. That won't be my problem. We also won't be taking any chances.
We're well aware of the shelters, but believe me when I say my mother-in-law would be too disruptive. We're put her in two different nursing care homes in the past year for a two week respite (for us), and she is not welcome back in either one. Also, we know from experience that some of the deaths always happen in the shelters because of the stress.
As Betsy (my wife) said last night, "If I have to suffer, I'd just as soon suffer in familiar surroundings." Besides, it's too late to go anywhere else -- we've had reports from several friends who are stuck in the Orlando area and can't get further North. The last thing we need is to be stuck on the highway with a 100 year-old invalid and a cardiac patient...
I think, in the face or problems, if you are secure within yourself, you reach a point of serenity. We're at that point; we're comfortable with our preparations and our decisions; and we're prepared to accept whatever happens. We've even laughed about it a little -- imagining ourselves, early Saturday morning, stuck in the hall with Grandma and the dogs, with Grandma shrieking a little and the dogs trying to get under the concrete slab...