Northland,
Just saw your thread tonight. If you read my grapple install thread, you saw where I added a square tube to the top of my bucket. Then mounted the grapple base to that.
Shaley is on the right track, IMO.
First, extend the grapple cylinder all the way out and place the grapple assembly so that the tips of the jaws are where you want them. That might be at your bucket teeth or at the bucket lip. Either way, when you get the jaw tips where you want them, you will see what the base needs to look like. If the base sits too far behind the top of the bucket, shim it up with a 2 x 4 or a 1 x 4 until the base of the grapple is above the top of the bucket lip. Note the angle of the base too. That is what your "shim" needs to look like. Make one out of plate steel or tubing and weld it to the top lip of your bucket. Then drill and tap it to mount your grapple base on. With the "shim" the right shape, it should work perfectly with the 6" cylinder.
If the grapple base is too far forward of the top bucket lip, move it back and do the same thing. But I don't think that will be the case. Either way, moving it (the grapple base) up from the top lip and tilting the grapple base will let you put the jaw tips where you want them. You just need to make the shim the correct shape. The correct shape is what the gap between the bucket top lip and the grapple base looks like.
In my case I used a 2-1/2 x 2-1/2 steel tube and it came out pretty good. If I had it to do over again, I would have shimmed up the back of the tube more than the front, that would have been perfect for me. It would have pushed the jaw tips out more towards the bucket lip. But I like it like this anyway and it works fine. You can see one advantage is that it closes pretty deep into my bucket and really holds loose stuff tight.
Anyway, here are 4 pictures of how it turned out, closed and open.
