These threads show different prospectives similar to what James shared with me previously...
It was over 20 years ago when the Doc said Mom's memory was slipping but the last 5 years is when it started to impact daily living and the last year getting more so yet I am very lucky that she is generally a very happy person so this is a blessing... don't think I could deal with being the bad guy over and over again.
Her top concerns are Church, Meals and one brother and the wife of the other brother... she asks about them everyday... one calls most days on the drive home from work which always perks her up and she is READY at anytime and any day to go to the Christmas Tree farm as it reminds her of the time when she was growing up... the tractors, cows, chickens, horses... etc... and she would always find something to do...
My Sister In Law of the other brother is also good about making time to pick her up for a few hours when she can... sometimes just to pick up the kids from school or grab a bite to eat out... which Mom really enjoys... she was cancer stricken in her early 30's with a new born and two toddlers... Mom was there night and day pitching in and it is something my Sister In Law never forgot going through the radiation, surgery, chemo, etc...
Often people will not realize there is anything off with Mom... especially in a first casual meeting...
I do think about the future... I had long ago planned to move but had to give up on that for now... at least the places are rented.
Mom is most comfortable sleeping in her own bed each night... she loves to share produce from her garden... only fruit trees now... but some days she will go to the same neighbors 4 or 5 times with fruit not knowing she had been there many times earlier...
I had locked the mail slot so main would not get lost... never had a late or missed payment in my life... the last 6 months I can no longer say this... as Mom will wait for the letter carrier and go through all of it and where it ends up is anyone's guess... the local Post Office is a Plexiglass fortress with a wait list... so a PO Box isn't an option... I have learned to know when bills are due and for some like Utilities... I make payments to cover several months ahead... can't get in trouble when you have a credit showing.
As long as she can sleep through the night so I can sleep through the night we can make it work... it is getting up several times each night that makes it hard to go to work with no sleep...