Death and social media ettiquette

[tcreeley]

When my mother passed away, a busybody useless friend of hers took it upon himself to call my bother and sister. I was at work and came home to find out when an officer we knew stopped by to inform us.
When I went to call my family, I discovered this useless guy had already. - It isn't just social media, it's people who are jerks, not having the decency to mind their own business.

 

[aczlan]

I was raised to take off your head cover at the table to eat. Same for going onto the dance floor of a evening. Often times a hat rack was near the door or register. Sure as heck not doing it now a days. Hat will likely be gone when your done. Setting it on a empty chair at the table just gets it set on or the newly arrived occupant of the chair just toss the hat on the dirty floor or on the table top to get soiled. Hats stay on my head do to the bad manners of those around me. Many type of social etiquette has changed or gone. Not just online or newspaper.

I take mine off (baseball cap) and either tuck the brim into the small of my back, or clip the carabinier for the keys on my belt through the back of it.

Aaron Z

 

[downsizingnow48]

Ever been to Rawlins, WY. I believe every male child has a ball cap sewn to his scalp at about age 8 and wears it forever after. It never comes off, anywhere or anytime.

 

[Bird]

When my mother passed away, a busybody useless friend of hers took it upon himself to call my bother and sister. I was at work and came home to find out when an officer we knew stopped by to inform us.
When I went to call my family, I discovered this useless guy had already. - It isn't just social media, it's people who are jerks, not having the decency to mind their own business.

Your mother died and a friend notified your brother and sister???? Sounds to me like a friend trying to help. But of course I don't know all the details, so I can't really say what was done, or why, or whether it was good or bad.

 

[tcreeley]

Your mother died and a friend notified your brother and sister???? Sounds to me like a friend trying to help. But of course I don't know all the details, so I can't really say what was done, or why, or whether it was good or bad.

He was a real estate agent who was trying to get her to sell her 80 acres of land. He said she should sell her house too and rent from him. - A gay man, 25 years younger. - Weird and unpleasant guy. - Older people who are alone can become targets of the unscrupulous. - they had a purchase agreement all set to go with the selling amount specified, but the acreage not specified - left blank. She was selling 50 acres in her mind, but an extra 30 could have been thrown in in a back room deal.

 

[Bird]

He was a real estate agent who was trying to get her to sell her 80 acres of land. He said she should sell her house too and rent from him. - A gay man, 25 years younger. - Weird and unpleasant guy. - Older people who are alone can become targets of the unscrupulous. - they had a purchase agreement all set to go with the selling amount specified, but the acreage not specified - left blank. She was selling 50 acres in her mind, but an extra 30 could have been thrown in in a back room deal.

OK, I understand now why you felt as you did. That's a little different from the first impression I got.

 

[Sigarms]

He was a real estate agent who was trying to get her to sell her 80 acres of land. He said she should sell her house too and rent from him. - A gay man, 25 years younger. - Weird and unpleasant guy. - Older people who are alone can become targets of the unscrupulous. - they had a purchase agreement all set to go with the selling amount specified, but the acreage not specified - left blank. She was selling 50 acres in her mind, but an extra 30 could have been thrown in in a back room deal.

Sincere question... do you feel that someone's sexual orientation really needs to be added into the mix when you have to describe their personality?

 

[LD1]

I think there is a little mis-understanding about just how facebook works, especially with those that dont have it.

Whatever you post is ONLY public if you ALLOW it to be public.

If you dont allow it to be public, the only ones that you "accept" as "friends" can see it.

And if you only want to allow one or two people to see it, you can use a private message similar to TBN here.

FB is just another form of communication that IMO is no different than e-mail, text message, etc. Just a way to share some fun pics of kids with out-of state relatives. Good way to keep in touch with friends that you havent seen in a long time, etc.

And yes, I see people reporting on someone's death quite a bit. Usually it its reported by next of kin. Gives an opportunity for everyone to offer their condolences without blowing up their phone with a hundred phone calls a day.

My wife and I share a joint FB account. I keep my activity their at a minimum. But there are several things facebook gives me that I cannot get elsewhere. One is the sheriffs calls. They post their calls from the previous day on their facebook page but NOT on their website or anywhere else online. Call history is vague. It will just say something like ...."theft, rd 1234, abcde township. Or "suspicious person, rd 5678, xyz township.

Call history is one thing I have been asking for, for a long time. Always hear the rumors through the grape vine like "did you here so and so's garage got broke into".....well, now we have official information.

Our County engineer is also on FB, and actively posts in our county page. Giving updates about roads to be paved, patched, sealed. And welcomes feedback from those that live in the county on where some of the bad areas are etc.

The school has their own page. So get notices from them about events, fundraisers at local business, signups for sports, etc that we wouldnt know about otherwise.

Sure, lot of people like to post about every detail of their life. What they had for breakfast, if they have the sniffles, they bought new shoes, etc. Thats their thing.

But I treat it as just another line of communication and a valuable resource for LOCAL news and things that are happening around our COUNTY.

 

[ultrarunner]

I guess I don't understand how it works...

I've been searching particular businesses and will be directed to a Facebook page... all is good and then a pop up comes up and blocks most of the page.

Tried to look up friends and get nothing except a page and then comes the pop up.

People with a Facebook account can click on pictures I can't but they are not friends.

Apparently there is another level for friends that supersedes "Members" that supersedes "Public"

Still don't get it why a Public Page would have join or log in pop ups or why government entities would use a service like Facebook that requires joining to view...

 

[LD1]

Cannot answer your pop-up issue.

And no, you dont need to be a member to view anything that is "public".

So my example about the sheriffs call history, or school info, etc......no you dont need to be a member to view all that "public" information.

What being a member gets you is the ability to ask questions or comment via facebook......and also allows you to get notifications. So if someone from the school posts something about an event on facebook.....I get a notification. Very similar to how you can set up e-mail notifications for TBN here anytime someone replies to a thread of yours.

Again, its just another form of communication is all. I dont get too personal on their. But people go their if the want to buy/sell something. Almost getting bigger than craigslist. People go their if their dog gets out.....or if they find a stray dog hoping to find its rightful owner. People will post (no pics or details) stuff like MVA at ......intersection.....road closed so avoid area. Alot of business use it for advertising....and you can read reviews.

I am not trying to sell anyone on facebook. You dont want it and thats fine. All I am saying is there is alot more to it than people realize. Its not just a bunch of people wanting to tell everyone what they had for dinner last night. And its not nearly as "public" as people think it is. If I post a picture of myself on our FB page....you will never see it. My company will never see it. The only people that will see it are people that are "friends".

In the case of the woman that got fired for posting a selfie at work with computer screen in the background. Odds are some of her coworkers are her "friends" on facebook. And one of them ratted her out and showed HR.