dooleysm
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My boys are 22 months and 3 months old. This was the first Christmas that the older one was really aware of what was going on and he had a blast. It was wonderful to see the joy in his eyes and it really made me appreciate Christmas again, like I haven't in years.
The problem I'm having though, is that the older one got soooo much stuff. Way too much, in our (my wife and I) opninion. He probably ended up with about as much as I got when I was little, but I was an only child and definitely got more than I needed. My wife got very little in the way of gifts when she was little. A gift from each of her godparents, a gift from Santa, and a small trinket from each set of grandparents (both sets have on the order of 50 grandkids). Her family wasn't poor by any stretch, but they lived below their means.
Most of the gifts for my older son (the younger boy mostly got clothes and diapers) came from my side of the family. We have a party at my grandpa's and my aunts and uncles and cousins gave him a bunch of toys and then my parents gave him a load of stuff. He's got more tractors, dump trucks, and farm animals than you can imagine. We don't think he needs all that, and we really want to tone it down next year.
We feel like too many gifts at Christmas really sends the wrong message, and it's just way more than he can play with. It also makes it hard for Santa to be a special thing for him, since he's already opened tons of gifts by the time Christmas morning rolls around. We don't want Santa to have to compete with gifts from well meaning relatives.
I've already talked with my mom about this and we're trying to come up with a solution. I suggested they give our kids each a certificate for a getaway to the children's museum in Indianapolis or a trip to the local amusement park (Holiday World), or maybe attend a late night christmas eve service, or spend a day baking and decorating cookies, or something along those lines. A gift that will create memories, not just another toy for the toybox. My mom seems ok with this and I think we'll get something worked out. Then I still have to deal with my aunts, uncles, and cousins.
How do all of you guys handle gifts at Christmas for your children?
The problem I'm having though, is that the older one got soooo much stuff. Way too much, in our (my wife and I) opninion. He probably ended up with about as much as I got when I was little, but I was an only child and definitely got more than I needed. My wife got very little in the way of gifts when she was little. A gift from each of her godparents, a gift from Santa, and a small trinket from each set of grandparents (both sets have on the order of 50 grandkids). Her family wasn't poor by any stretch, but they lived below their means.
Most of the gifts for my older son (the younger boy mostly got clothes and diapers) came from my side of the family. We have a party at my grandpa's and my aunts and uncles and cousins gave him a bunch of toys and then my parents gave him a load of stuff. He's got more tractors, dump trucks, and farm animals than you can imagine. We don't think he needs all that, and we really want to tone it down next year.
We feel like too many gifts at Christmas really sends the wrong message, and it's just way more than he can play with. It also makes it hard for Santa to be a special thing for him, since he's already opened tons of gifts by the time Christmas morning rolls around. We don't want Santa to have to compete with gifts from well meaning relatives.
I've already talked with my mom about this and we're trying to come up with a solution. I suggested they give our kids each a certificate for a getaway to the children's museum in Indianapolis or a trip to the local amusement park (Holiday World), or maybe attend a late night christmas eve service, or spend a day baking and decorating cookies, or something along those lines. A gift that will create memories, not just another toy for the toybox. My mom seems ok with this and I think we'll get something worked out. Then I still have to deal with my aunts, uncles, and cousins.
How do all of you guys handle gifts at Christmas for your children?