Use bolts with nylon lock nuts. Hair pins are the wrong thing for grapples IMHO. You will discover that when your grapple is doing the funky chicken moving brush because your pin and hair pin are lost in a field somewhere. Hair pins last about 30 seconds in the field when moving brush.You can order most any size bronze bushings online, or on E-Bay.
I put nuts on the ends of my two primary pins (had to thread the pins).
Others, I just drilled holes through, and used "hair pins" at each end.
Go look at some real construction equipment bosses and pins for good ideas. Small AG stuff ie. SCUTs/CUTs tend to be marginally built and aren't a great starting point.