bdeboer, Thanks for the question???.
RECAP: Basically I put the TAMPKO primer on the ICF Blocks below grade, followed by the TAMKO Peel and Stick Membrane, then the Stego 15mil and then sealed the top/open end (6 inches above grade) to the ICF Block using their Stego Tape, expensive but well worth it. Make sure you get the tape right from Stego, got some stuff off EBAY, not the same....
OK that formed the watertight transition from below grade to above grade, now to your question: I found a great product in 2005 carried in Menards (a Midwest Home Depot type store but better) and it can be special ordered thru Home Depot, called Styro Industries Tuff II, a premixed trowel grade material made for ICF applications. It comes in colors but I chose white then applied color over it it myself. STYRO's Home Page is on the internet. Keep in mind I coated the ICF Blocks before the first course of lap siding went on.
Before you apply TUFF II, the installation instructions call for use of STYRO's Sticky Mesh HD. It comes in a 9-1/2" X 150' roll and it looks like drywall mesh tape with sticky back. I started 4 inches above grade with the Sticky Mesh then did a 2nd row with a 3 inch overlap so it would fall about 5 inches above or under the bottom of the planned lap siding. Once the Sticky Mesh was applied then I went to town toweling the TUFF II on, first I tried a smooth finish (too hard) so I went with a more textured finish. The TUFF II comes in pre-mixed colors but like everything else that didn't do it for me so I found a concrete stain (never a problem with my last build which was 7 years old when I left). I used a product called H&C Concrete Stain carried by Sherwin-Williams, more earthy colors appropriate for just a tad-bit exposure above grade.