How often do you think you'll need to cut metal with a torch? I would love to have a plasma cutter, but realistically, don't really need one, but I do need to cut metal from time to time. Things like bolts, twisted metal on the tractor and odd shapes out of steel when I'm building something. A torch works great for all these things. Since I don't do this very often, I bought a compact set from Home Depot. I've had it about four or five years now and love it. I've had a few projects were I would sure like to have larger bottles, but most of the time, I'm just making a quick cut, so the smaller bottles are fine. Other then the bottle size, the only other drawback is the cutting tip is prone to getting dirty after extended use. I have a cleaning tool that I use to poke into the holes of the tip when this happens. The flame will start to distort on me and I know it's time to clean it out. I also like that I can pick it up, put it on the fourwheeler and use it where I need it quickly and easily.
With a full sized set of bottles, you have to either buy them out right, like you are considering with used ones, or you can lease them on a yearly basis from your supplier. Before buying a set of used bottles, I'd talk to somebody at the place you plan to have them filled and find out what they will and will not fill. I just exchange my bottles, so I'm always getting different ones. I'm sure the same is true with the big bottles, so what you buy isn't what you'll have as soon as you exchange them for full ones. If the supplier doesn't accept your bottles, then you are stuck with old bottles that have no value. Some old bottles are just scrap that some people try to sell off to get rid of. Be careful that if you buy them, they are acceptable for refilling or exchanging.
As for tips, there are too many options out there for me to comment on. I have Victor and it works fine. For most of us, I don't think it really matters from one brand to another, just stick with a name brand that you can find replacement parts for.
Good luck,
Eddie