Good points from everyone, but here's the rub...
I have a quote on the Ram 3500 Dually - optioned like I want it - for $40,206. The RAM 2500 - with a whole bunch of stuff I don't need and don't want is $50,000. Both have the same engine. The dealers simply don't have entry price point RAM 2500's on the lot. I like the added payload and I like the added towing of the 3500. Both trucks are the same length, but the RAM 2500 is obviously more narrow. I will use the towing and the payload capacity this year - a lot! We have two pole barns to build, fence to install, gates, entrances, roads to build, materials to haul, and eventually product to move. And if I'm REALLY lucky I might even get to take the motorcycles on a trip. Point is - my previous needs do not match my current requirements - I need to upgrade. I don't need to go to a 3500, but it's 10 grand LESS than the 2500! I can buy a lot of tires for 10 grand. I've also toyed with the Hemi in a 1500, but I pushed my current truck and an SUV I had before it to their respective limits and it cost me transmissions in both. I want a truck this time that's rated higher - not lower - as such it's a 2500 or a 3500.
On everyone's comments...
Size is my biggest worry. The truck is going to "live and work" in the country, so it's not going to be jocking for parking in downtown Houston. I'll probably forego Sonic from here on out and may have an issue at the drive through teller at the bank - but this is my work truck.
Fuel mileage isn't an issue. At the farm everything is within 10 miles. Long trips might be something to look at, but this isn't my only vehicle - I can always take the car.
Slippery on snow? I'll need to keep that in mind. We don't get much snow down here and when we do it's simply picture time. We stay home, enjoy the view, and wait until tomorrow when the temperature gets back up to 70.
Slippery on wet roads though - well that's different. Does the 2500 series have the same issues? It doesn't seem like two skinny tires in the rear would result in less traction than one large tire. There were experimental race cars a few years back (Formula 1) that had 4 smaller tires in the front. If I recall it was to gain an advantage in the wet.
Of note... I went out to the farm today to take delivery of the new Kubota
M7040 I bought. The tractor was delivered by a RAM 3500. I also noted that every RAM 3500 I passed on the way in was towing, hauling, or doing something with a large load - they were working and dirty. On the flip side, every 2500 I saw - no matter what brand - was shinny, polished, freshly washed, and driven by either moms or suits...