There are different types of connect under pressure QD's.
Some will connect under low pressure, about 500 lbs, and others will connect under pressure at full pressure.
The QD sets should be from same manufacturer for proper operation.
There are quite a number of QD manufacturer.
Make yourself an adapter using a dummy QD.
The dummy QD is 1/2 of the QD set with a short piece of PVC with a cap with a small hole in it.
Stuff the PVC tube with a rag, and then plug the adapter into one of the QD from the attachment.
Any expansion of the fluid will go into the PVC tube, and should be very little.
I read a post where someone mentioned a similar device but with less detail than what you just wrote. I am new to hydraulics and do not understand how this dummy coupler will relieve the pressure, as when connecting to the mating coupler on the tractor that has no pressure on it, will not?
Does it have something to do with the closed system on the tractor vs. the open system of the dummy connector?
What is the purpose of the capped end on the PVC? Can one just leave it as an open tube on the exit end with a rag stuffed in it?
Either way it looks like I would have to purchase 2 connectors for the dummies as I am not sure that one side will always be the side with pressure.