He is right about not worrying. Just experiment a little with different RPM's and find where the loader moves fast enough to your liking.
It's not really a matter of worrying. I've had a lot of experience with different engines (marine, aircraft, motorcycle, auto ......even rebuilt motorcycle and auto engines) and I have found that when operated within the design parameters they operate more smoothly and last longer.
I added a backhoe to my little LS and when I operate this device I will sit in one spot for maybe hours with the engine running at whatever rpm I set it at. The manual states that 'maximum rpm' for the engine is 2900 rpm. On a car that would imply 'red line' and not a good rpm to run the engine at for hours on end......you will be sorry if you do that. At full throttle my engine is turning 3000 rpm. Hopefully, this explains my concern a little. So if the hydraulic pump puts out it's maximum output at a lower rpm, then that's what I want to run my engine at.
While the advice to "...not worry..." is reassuring and if given in a spirit of helpfulness, is much appreciated. I'm looking for knowledge. I don't want to break my tractor either today or a year from now. Anyone with one of the larger tractors probably think this is foolish in that nothing they do puts their tractor in danger. That is not the case with the compacts and subcompacts. Look at the used ones and you will see bent loaders, loader arms that flex like crazy, and all sorts of weirdness at the PTO end. To me this 'tool' cost a lot of money and I don't want to spend more on repairing it.
Your advice to experiment is actually pretty good. The loader does not seem to speed up after a certain rpm (not sure what it is at the moment but will experiment to find out). That implies additional rpm does not increase pump output. The backhoe is somewhat a different story. Digging up stumps I constantly get into the relief valve. In that case I will have to experiment both with movement speed vs rpm and rpm vs relief valve. mmmmmm.
In any case, thank you for the thoughts.
j.