Correct. The harsh engagement will never go away. The very first time I fired up the PTO on my rotary mower, it sheered the pin. After I installed the slip clutch, I idle down as I always do, engage the PTO, the tractor briefly bangs and shutters as the PTO starts up, I idle up to 540 and do whatever I need to do. It is just the process now.
Growing up on the farm with equipment made in the 60's, the PTO engagement was on a lever. You could feather that lever and engage the PTO more smoothly, even at high RPM. In all the years of using PTO implements, I rarely broke a sheer pin. Sometimes I wish these new tractors had engagements like that. But that is no longer the world I live in. I live in a world where everything is computer controlled, fly-by-wire, electronic PTO engagements. So I adapted. It was certainly not a reason to NOT get the tractor. It could be better, but I am not complaining.