Women

[CalG]

My wife and I have never had an argument. (50 years together +/-, 3 kids ,all good)
She did hit me once with her pocket book, but I was driving across the causeway and couldn't do anything ;-)

I have yet to figure her out. She has absolutely no sense of humor, jokes are wasted as she looks for some secret meaning in them. She is as liberal as can be... I'm... well, not so.

But she has a STRONG comittment to family (ours, not relatives), And I wouldn't want to be on her bad side!

She's got nice legs for a 73 year old! So I'm happy ;-)

 

[1 Old Man]

dj1701,
No way would I stand being uncomfortable in my own house. If she's
a b---- now, marriage won't change her. She'll still be a b----.
Good luck.

"I can thank God for one more thing, we are actually friends, best friends."
tacticleturnip

"BTW after 37 years I still do not understand her thinking, I just quit being mad about it."
Eagle 1

"Every day is not easy, but it is better than dying a lonely old bastard",
Hawkinshollow

"Sex and intimacy makes up for the drama." (kind of)
Shooterdon

All words of wisdom from wise men

 

[Fuddyduddy1952]

I'm thinking whatever works for different people. My wife & I have been together 53 years! To me it's always been each one has the other's best interest at heart. An example was at first I was working for a company and she said I was too good for that, open our own business and we did. She believed in me and worked together and it took a few years to prosper.
We yell and fight all the time over stupid stuff, anything major she's OK with it. We're each right and wrong about things at times but we take each other's advice when it's positive and apologize when we're wrong. We talk & enjoy time together but it's good to be apart every day for a while, if I'm working on something, etc.
We actually met as kids then years later as teenagers and it was the 4th of July. It's the eyes...window to the soul. My parents didn't like her at first then realized she was real, no-nonsense, seemed rough but kind hearted.

 

[JacknDe]

Talking about dumb as a stump...I dated a woman that said East was whatever direction she was facing...huh? Something about her dad told her when she leaves her house, which faces east...and since she's 'facing' east, then east is wherever she faces.

And another dumb one...I was a pilot for a major airline (now retired) and one flight took us over Arizona and Meteor Crater. One of the F/A's happened to be in the cockpit looking out the window and noticed how close that meteor came to hitting the visitors center.

My point is, I'm not sure if whoever married these women were smart or just as dumb as they were. We would joke about marrying dumb women...but I don't have the patience for stupidity. On the other hand, being with a smart woman would certainly challenge my intellect...but I don't want to look stupid. Either way, with women, there is no right way...only their way.

 

[BleedingOrange]

It might be time to trade her in. Life is to short to spend so much time being miserable. Good ones are out there.

 

[masseyrider]

Naive as I was when I got fitted for a ball and chain I genuinely expected the relationship to be a 50/50 partnership.
We would discuss the larger issues and come to mutual agreements. The smaller day to day things would be dealt with as needed individually but with an eye on the bigger relationship.
Once that band of gold went over her knuckles that all changed.
Her way or the proverbial highway.
No sharing of the rudder even if it would run us on to the reefs.
The only long term relationships I know of are ones where one or the other person is the dominant one.
That usually leaves her in charge and the man pulling the plough.
I'd prefer to occasionally be a bit lonely but I can always go out with a friend (if the wife lets him) and get over it.
Better than being miserable 24/7.

I can have have Doritos and soda for dinner or a full proper sit down meal. Nobody to give me crap except the Dr and I see him rarely.
I don't have to tolerate her family, friends or her issues.
If I see a good looking lady I can stare as long as I want or until it starts to get creepy.
I don't care aboot keeping up with the Joneses.
I don't need or want couch parasites called cushions so I threw them out.
My kitchen is classic oak. Fully functional and in excellent condition. I don't have to change it for IKEA cardboard crap like my friend did because it was "dated."
I don't have a man cave. My home is mine and I don't have to hide in a prescribed out of the way hole.
My living room is 28x18. Set up as a entertainment center. 98" TV, 7 speaker surround sound system. A floor to ceiling shelving unit to house my favorite videos which, yes, does include some po-n.
4 Large recliners and just a couple end tables for the snacks and beverages.
Try living like that and a myriad of other situations while being married.
Short term rentals are easily found to flush the plumbing. Asian, Latino... Any age from 18+. Size and shape as you like.
Believe me, I have envious friends who haven't had coitus in a decade or more.

 

[old and tired]

I would love to give you advice about women and after 34 years, I don't have a clue...

We are friends, roommates, and partners in life. Pretty sure we would have been divorced if we had kids (there were already rough times, kids would have pushed it over the limit).

We're still together but we do a lot of things separately... but many things we do together. We both came from parents that never divorced, that's part of it...

Let us know if you ever figure it out!!!

 

[CloverKnollFarms]

I married a woman that is a joy to live with. That helps

 

[MossRoad]

...

How do you people stay married? No freaking way I would ever do that again...

I got no clue... Sorry.

My wife and I met when we were 15 and 16 respectively. Started dating about 2 years later. That was 1979. Dated 6 years before we got married. That was 1985. Didn't have our first child until ages 30 and 31. So we basically grew up together. We are defiantly NOT the same people we were when we got married. Fortunately, we are still compatible and enjoy each other's company. A mutual group of family and friends helps a lot. Plus, she has her own group of friends that I very occasionally hang out with. Girls' night out stuff mostly. Get away from their guys and commiserate or co-laugh at us... probably both!

As for ever getting married again.... hopefully I'll never find out.

 

[Runner]

I'm not sure it's my problem or a women problem.

In my case, it was a little of both. I picked women for the wrong reasons, and then they turned out to be wrong for me (who'd have thunk?). On the other hand, I had my own bad habits (like impaired judgment) and some undesirable personality traits that (looking back 30 years later) I can't deny.