Women

[Torvy]

The difference is that he lives with her, not married. Theoretically, the benefit to cohabitation before marriage is to identify these pain points so you can bail before you're locked in.

Once you're married, sure, compromise and work it out. Whenever I have one of those days, I just balance whether I'd be better of with or without. It's never been especially close.

 

[ultrarunner]

Secret is to choose wisely your soulmate…

Often when a man marries he hopes his bride will never change.

When a woman marries she already has a plan to transform her husband.

Words from a very wise elder.

I work with women with a ratio of 10 females to every male…

I’ve heard things said as soon as we’re married I’m putting a stop to his “Fill in the blank…”

Or I’m starting a total home make over after the honeymoon or go home shopping because I don’t really like his house and I want an our house.

I had a friend that went through a rough divorce and he was a very successful contractor, built the home they lived in and generous to his family… his mother in law was the third wheel in the family after father in law passed… Thought he had given up on marriage until he asked me to be best man at his second wedding…

The dynamics totally flipped… his second wife had a career but never married and no kids…

She would say little things like my husband is so smart and would seek his counsel on things… he would do the same praising her business skills…

Mutual admiration goes a long way… perhaps the secret?

He was always a biker businessman and talked about a Harley for years… she was not a biker in any sense.

She said it’s your dream… get it.

He wanted to ride North America and she was skeptical…

She agreed to a test road trip saying I pick where we stay and where we have dinner… he said deal!

Exploring the country together was the highlight of their lives… he passed from cancer and she never remarried saying he is the love of her life… on his deathbed he was praising her to be strong and saying she was the best thing that ever happened to him…

 

[Jstpssng]

I was just joking and trying to point out that you should be careful what you post here. Dangerous subject . . .

I didn't necessarily mean that your post was toxic... even if that's what I said.
Just that if they were arranged on a linear scale yours would be on the higher end.

Now that you mention it though, some of these do look like they were written with their wives looking over their shoulder.

 

[brewdog]

There’s more narcissistic women in America than there has ever been. I don’t think something like that can be fixed.

 

[pmsmechanic]

Of course there is the, "If mama ain't happy, no one is happy".

Even better is "Happy spouse, happy house."

 

[YanmarFever]

Im going on 48 yrs married to my wonderful wife, I have to give her credit for being the wind under my wings. In business and life.
She is always there helping me in whatever.

 

[CH4Ohio]

Now that you mention it though, some of these do look like they were written with their wives looking over their shoulder.

Or written as though she could never see it . . . .

 

[bcp]

Bruce

 

[ultrarunner]

Nothing beats a good marriage but it seems the risks are great and plenty of guys have been blindsided…

 

[bigtiller]

After 5 pages no has said the secret to marriage is "compromise".
IMHO without compromise there is no long lasting marriage.

Of course there is the, "If mama ain't happy, no one is happy".

AND, control your anger. It's best to not give it voice.