are you the up person or the down person

itsmecindi · Jul 14, 2003

I guess for every couple there is the up person and the down person. Sometimes the up person is kind of forced into the position by the down person. I mean if both sides of a couple tend to see a situation from the negative point of view, well then neither one of them would get out of bed in the morning. It would be like...what's the point?

I am the 'glass is half full' side of the equation. If some of the feed goes bad, I see the part of it that didn't go bad as a bonus. He sees it as 'not enough to do any good'.

If one of the sows only has six babies and another has fourteen, he sees the one with only six as a 'waste of feed'. I see her as a wet nurse for some of the babies from the mother of fourteen that are struggling to find a nipple.

He sees the 'sudden thunderstorm' that forces us onto the porch when we should be doing fencing as an irritating hold up. I see it as a fortuitous opportunity to take a break, and stand under the metal roof and listen to the rain drops fall.

"That's the sound of the fence not getting done again this weekend." He says, face looking like a pug dog's.

"Nah....that's the sound of thunderous applause for what we DID get done. Can't you hear it?"

He cocks his head to the side and listens, then he pins me with that exasperated husband expression that I have come to be so familiar with.

"Yer a bonafide fruit loop, you know that?"

Yeah...but I'm a happy one. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

RichZ · Jul 14, 2003

Cindi, it's interesting that you and Fred are so consistent. Karen and I take turns being opptomists and pessimists. I guess it depends on the situation with us.

For example, the other day I was brush hogging a pasture, and I had to stop because my trusty Ferguson suddenly started to overheat. It took me a while to diagnose the problem, and it just needed a new radiator cap. (Dang Ferguson only made those things to last 52 years!!! I guess nothing lasts!)

I was annoyed that I didn't finish the pasture in one day, Karen said that I should be happy that I fixed the tractor for $5.

Of course, she was right!!! Women are ALWAYS right!!!! Aren't they??? (No sarcasm, I just admit it. /forums/images/graemlins/crazy.gif)

itsmecindi · Jul 14, 2003

Maybe it's because you two have maybe different views of who is ultimatley responsible for what catastrophe? I mean, making it right, you know.

The tractor breaks down your immeduate reaction has to be, oh heck. How'm I gonna fix this. She views you as capable in that area so to her it's not big deal, would be my guess.

She's right though, about the five dollar thing. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

RichZ · Jul 14, 2003

I'm sure most of my fellow male TBN'ers are gonna hate me for this, but I gotta admit, the wife is right nine times out of ten. The other time out of ten, probably no one is right!!! /forums/images/graemlins/laugh.gif

And thanks for the vote of confidence!!! Actually, Karen and I have more confidence in each others' abilities than we each have in our own. Well, me especially, I rarely have confidence in my own abilities.