As far as depth goes, if you know where your outlet from your house is, that should give you a good idea of depth. Most today in NY at least are around 12"-18" down, but my sisters place is below basement floor level, so they are about 7' deep and had to put collars on several years ago. Today you can't put one it that way in NY (at least that is what I understand).
As for uncovering mine this fall, I used my
BX1800 with toothbar (built TB just for this occasion, at least that was the encouragement I needed).
Anyhow, I just kept scraping small layers off the length of mine until I got down to the top then finished with a shovel.
Of course mine is about 12" down and I know exactly where it was as I had dug it up for pumping about 3 years ago as well.
I have a concrete tank, so I was not concerned about the weight of my BX (about 1500-1600 lbs with me and weight box).
I never gave weight on the tank a consideration as I drive BX over it every week mowing (of course that is side to side direction). My tank is about 4-5" thick if memory serves, so that should be sturdy enough shouldn't it?
I do know that the last time I did it using my rototiller to loosen dirt/rocks and then hand shoveled and it wasn't fun at all, not to mention it took me several hours.
This time it took about 20 minutes and I had it all uncovered including my incoming 10' of cast iron line (which is why I was digging up to replace)
I wouldn't do this on the old steel tank we had at our cottage though! We replaced that 2 years ago and it was getting quite thin!! Made me cringe thinking about how many times I ran my fathers JD 425 over it mowing over the years!
Good luck,