Hi todda, I'll give it a shot but will ask a bunch of questions too, since I'm not familiar with your tractor. I am by no means a hydraulic expert so take what I say with a grain of salt. That is my disclaimer.
When you say this,
I was wondering what size high pressure hose I will want to runn from the 10 mm high pressure line in to my spool valve and will I want to run this same size line out of my spool valve back in to the 10 mm line.
I presume you are going to cut your 10mm HP (high pressure) line and insert this new spool valve in between right? And the 10mm is OD, right? Your choice of 3/8" hose is a good one since they are (fairly) close in size, so IMHO, I think it should be OK.
As I undrstand (possibly correctly) I tie in to my HP steel line using 10mm comp fitting, route to my open center spool valve, back in to my HP line prior to the 3pt flow controll valve.
Now, what about the spool valve you are getting. Will it have a power beyond port in it? As I understand it, you will plumb the HP out from this new valve to your 3pt valve, right? You can use it without power beyond sleeve but it is always better to use one with power beyond to power a valve downstream. So when you get your new open center spool valve, be sure to get one with "power beyond" and the sleeve to use it. That is what I recommend.
In that case, take the HP output from power beyond on your new spool valve and connect it to your 3pt valve. The new spool valve will have another exit or "return to sump" that needs to go back to your reservoir. You can do that by adding a "T" to your current return to sump line and connecting the exit on the new spool valve to that. It is an extra step but a much better set up.
Basically my question is that when you are exiting your spool valve with 3/8 hose and running it in to a 10mm line you are essentially stuffing this greater volume of fluid in to a smaller space. will this damage anything or does the spool valve have an internal mechanism that will slow the flow enough to do this without damaging my pump,spool valve or 3pt flow controll valve?
Generally, this happens all the time when guys install restrictors into larger lines to slow the movement of the cylinders they are using. I know the restrictors controlling the cylinders only come into play when using those cylinders, so regular flow through the open center system is not always being restricted. Their are pressure relief valves in your spool valves for safety and to keep the system from dead heading. Nevertheless, it shouldn't hurt to step up or down in line size. As far as I know, this is an accepted way of doing it, so it should be OK for the pump and valves.
From there just plug in to the appropriate ports on valve and run to the cylinder main inlet, crosing the secondary inlets so return flow causes the appropriate cylinder to retract as one extends. I may be way way off but this is how I have put it togeather in my head.
I have never done this but it sounds like it should work. But you need to mount the cylinders correctly.
The cylinders have a lesser volume on the rod side than the other. So to do it successfully, you need to mount the cylinders so that the exiting fluid from cylinder enters the other in the same spot. In other words, if your cross over connection comes from the rod end on one cylinder, it needs to go into the rod end of the other cylinder.
Hopefully someone else will comment to verify.