While checking volts at pin 2,be sure to touch black meter lead to - post on battery or engine block,NOT a2 . I think a wireing diagram will be the easiest way to cure this. Schematics should be available for a tractor no older than this. Ask around to see if a dealer will copy the light diagram from their shop manual. Based on what you said in post#6,there almost has to be a resistive device, a poor connection or another relay on pin 2 wire upstream from the relay you are testing. Why I say that is because the measured 12v would have to be disconnected when the lesser volts are applied to pin 2. Stated another way. If while 12 volts were being applied to pin 2,you applied 7 or 8 volts,the voltage would remain 12. That being true,the 12v is being disconnected when the relay being tested closes. If owner's manual say's key must be on before lights will function,instead of supplying 12v to fuses 12v might be supplied to a relay that in turn send's 12v to fuses. The factory might do that so a lighter duty ignition switch could be used to save a few $. I have a suggestion. Same as you did in post 6, put hot battery jumper to a1 to activate the relay coil. Working backwards toward battery,follow wire from pin 2 through connections and devices until you find where it drops from 12v to 7v. If due to insulation on wire you can't take a read with meter,push a straight pin through insulation. There is a point where voltage drops,find it.