I'm not sure you are getting what Kenny and JJ are telling you.
You have a single acting cylinder, this means it only extends or retracts in one direction using hydraulic pressure. This depends upon which end of the cylinder the hose hooks to. You say it is slow to let down. This is because there is no hydraulic pressure pushing it in that direction, it is simply trying to suck enough fluid from the system to let the cylinder extend. It lifts OK because there is only one hyd. hose going to the cylinder and that supplies pressure to cause the cylinder to lift. In the mean time, you are dead heading the valve while you are lifting the rake and causing the relief to open (irritating whine noise).
There are only two real solutions to the symptoms you are wanting to address and that is to either get another SA cylinder to oppose the original one, fabricate a mount for the cylinder and plumb it with the appropriate fittings and block, which doesn't make much sense because you could simply get one inexpensive dual acting cylinder and run one more hydraulic line from your unused remote to the second port on a DA cylinder so it will be able to extend and retract with hydraulic pressure. This is going to be simpler, less expensive and generally the correct method to use.