Time for a change?

[AndyM]

MrsAndyM has been offered a job in the eastern panhandle of West Virginia. The parent company of the company I work for has a division 30 miles away, so everything could work out. However, they want her to start in six days. /forums/images/graemlins/crazy.gif /forums/images/graemlins/crazy.gif

We thought it would be fun to move someplace new and start fresh, but that's just not enough time. I was going to stay behind for a couple of months to get the house sold, etc., but 6 days just isn't enough time to get her moved to a new town four hours away.

 

[NewToy]

Sounds like you have your mind made up already.
Does she have the option to resume ger current posistion if things don't work out? Either way, I'd tell her to go for it. It sounds like an adventure and there are plenty of tractorin' oppurtunities in "Wild,Wonderful West Virginia". If you pass something like this up you might be kicking yourself later.


John

 

[Bob_Skurka]

Andy you and MrsAndyM have been somewhat dissatisfied with your jobs for quite a while. If God can create the world and all its creatures in 6 days, I suspect you can figure out how to move MrsAndyM in the same time span . . . and then rest on the 7th day. It just depends on what you want to do.

 

[Sigarms]

Hey, those them thar fighting wards!

Seriously, everyone who lives in West By God Virginia knows that the eastern panhandle should be annexed by D.C/ and that "state" of Md ! (just kidding! /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif), and that from Cumberland on West should be annexed by West By God Virginia!

Honestly, although I don't know your whole "situation", if you have been unhappy for a while and nothing has changed, you will continue to be unhappy if nothing changes.

 

[AndyM]

Well, as some of you know, MrsAndyM is a school teacher, and there are no teaching jobs in Ohio... For example, Cleveland schools laid off 500 teachers this year and over 700 last year. If a position opens in a school district, there is often over 3000 applicants for the job.

She had been applying in PA and WV all summer, has been on several interviews, and finally got offered a job last night. After much discussion, we've decided it's too late to move and get a classroom and lesson plans established by Friday. If they had called a couple of weeks ago, things would be different.

She'll try again next summer, for the seventh summer in a row. There's just nothing in this area, so we'll keep on working towards the out of state stuff... it would be fun to go some place new, but we also don't want to get too far from family... PA, WV, MD.


By the way Bob, that's a great analogy, but I don't think 6 days will work. We'll try again next summer.

Anyone else think it would be fun to move and get jobs some pleace where you've never lived before?

 

[Junkman]

I moved to MA from NJ to make a job change and I did it with 2 days notice. Lived in a motel for a month till I found a place to stay. Went back to NJ to pick up things every weekend in between. Dog stayed with friends till I got settled in and then rode in the front seat of the moving van when the rest of the stuff came North. Six days is enough time if you are motivated enough to make the trek. Opportunity usually knocks but once, and I hope for your sake, you get another chance, but this last one took a while didn't it???????

 

[PineRidge]

Andy it's unfortunate that one has to go where the money is but that is the way it has been for some time. Two of our four grown children reside outside of Ohio for just this very reason and a third is talking now about heading to another state for employment as well.

Whatever you and the wife do decide to do, we wish you both all the luck and happiness in the world, you both deserve it.

 

[Sigarms]

If your wife is a school teacher, she should look south to North Carolina.

When I first moved here (N.C) for work, I lived with two school teachers, and I was amazed about the shortage they talked about in teachers in this state. Both girls went to college "for somthing" else, but after they couldn't find work in thier particular fields, they "crossed over" into teaching. They, on numerous occasions even tried to talk me into going into that profession.

Apparently N.C has programs for people who want to get into the teaching field. If they have these types of programs to "recruit" people, they must have a need.

In central N.C, I'm about 7 hours from Pittsburgh.

Four hour drive from you current location can really limit your "potential".

 

[dmccarty]

Dang it Sigarms!

Don't tell them to move down here. Already too many people. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

Seriously, there is a shortage of teachers in NC. There was an article in one of the papers this weekend about most NC teachers moving in from other states. I just looked for it but could not find it online.

Just found it on another site. Teacher Article

NC Government Website should have info on teachers jobs down here.

On the other hand the short notice in West VA is not that short. I had some family move from one state to another. The husband stayed behind to sell the house and find a new job in the new state. It took them awhile but they are glad they made the move.

Send the wife to a good hotel or see if she can rent with another teacher for awhile. She may have to work hard for a couple of weeks but you won't be there to get in her way. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

Good Luck,
Dan

 

[rox]

I found my daughter a teaching job over the internet. She graduated in December and I had written her resume. She did not want to live in Wisconsin because she grew up there and went to school there. She gave me a list of states she thought she might like to lvie in and asked me to research these states and find the highest paying school districts in each state. She figured as long as she was going to be applying, might as well apply in the higher paying districts.

While doing this research I came across a website which was I think called www.WantToTeach.com It really worked! Heck I ahd her resume so I jsut filled out the on line form using her information and then sent her an e-mail with her log in and password. I'll be gall darned if she didn't get her first teaching job off of that very website. A school in Hampton Virginia had a teacher needing to take maternity leave in February and they needed a French teacher for the rest of the year. They iterviewed her by phone and offered her the job over the phone. They only offered her substitute teachers pay and she turned them down. They cam back and offered her full teachers salary.

So really I do know that that one website works good. And once you get in a school and they like you it is no problem to get a position for the next year. I hope your wife continues to look throughout the year not not jsut stop becasue school has started. My daughter at that time was qualified in art and French and now just got her Masters Degree in Special Education and will be teaching autistic children.

Good luck to both of you, I hope there is something in my post that will help you.

 

[rox]

You wrote:
Anyone else think it would be fun to move and get jobs some pleace where you've never lived before?

My Reply: My husband and I bought an olive farm in Salon De Provence France and neither one of us had been in this area before. Not only that, we had absolutly no background or knowledge about olive farming. We bought an existing well known farm and figured we would figure it out when we got here. And we did, or at least we are in the process.

My husband and I seem to need to re-invent ourselves about every 10 years, change jobs or build a new house or something. It is quite invigerating to change. I don't worry to much about distance, my family is jsut an airplane ride away. We talk all the time on the phone and e-mail. If you are a close family you can remain close even with distance.

Life is an adventure, or at least it should be!

 

[EddieWalker]

Hi Andy,

One of my biggest fears is to look back at not trying something and regretting it. Too many of the old timers I've met have the exact same story. They had the oportunity and desire to do something, but didn't.

When I got the idea to build the RV Park, I was living in California, making $70K a year with no worries, a good pension in the future and all the basics. I also wasn't happy and felt I was just surviving and not "living" my life.

My wife at the time wasn't what you'd call very helpful. She wanted to move to Texas, but just wasn't capable, neither mentally or physicaly to be any help.

I loaded up rental trucks three times and drove here on my own, 2,000 miles each way, to get our stuff here. I rented a storage unit and to this day, three years later, still haven't unpacked some of my tools, books, clothes and who knows what else.

It was ****. No doubt about it. My parents now want to move here, and I'll probably be doing it all over again. Not something I'm looking forward to, but like anything else, you just get it done and move on to other things.

I honestly don't know if I'll succeed here or not. Too many variables and hurdles I still have to get past, but if I do fail, I will do something else. Work at Walmart or Lowes will be better than the life I had in California.

My point to you is this, do you want to make a change in your life? If so, do it and deal with what happens when it happens. Having regrets when it's too late to fix them isn't what you want to be thinking about the rest of your life.

Good luck,
Eddie

 

[OkeeDon]

Betsy and I were from Western Pennsylvania when we met. The first change was easy -- we were young and adventurous with few ties, so it was off to New England where Betsy had many college friends and I was intrigued with Boston. We moved up there separately as we weren't married yet (and things were a LOT different in those days regarding cohabitation). We got married, had two kids and had good jobs. Then, we moved again.

This one was more of an upheaval. While Betsy had family in Florida, I didn't. We had no jobs and no place to live in Florida. We sold our house and 9 acres in Westford, MA, had a garage sale in June where I got almost nothing for the Simplicity snow blower (but was VERY glad to be rid of it), and headed South with everything we owned and two babies.

That was 33 years ago, so long ago that I almost forgot about it when I was reading about your possible move. This is home, now. We've lived here more than half of our lives (we both just turned 65; we were 32 when we moved here).

There is an enormous need for teachers, here! This is where all the kids have gone that has created the surplus of teachers up there! Of course, you have to take part of your salary in Sunshine.

 

[rox]

Blue Ridge,

You mised a very important part of my story. My daughter did not ask me to apply for any jobs for her! Shere merly asked me to research high paying school districts in states she had targeted. Using my research she would then go out and apply for jobs. However during the course of my research I found this website www.WantToTeach.com and since I had done her resume, (Which I do resumes for all our frieds and family as I have a knack for it) I jsut on a lark filled it in. I did it on my own, not thinking at all it would work, but surprise, it did work!

First and last time in raising 2 kids I ever "applied" for a job FOR them, just cuz it was on the internet and it didnt' ask a lot of quetions, and I had stumbled accross it.

 

[AndyM]

Interesting stories and responses.

We really wanted to stay within a certain radius from our families, so North Carolina or Florida really wouldn't work.

Ultimately, she decided it would be too difficult to make it down there within a matter of days...

I just smile and say, "Yes dear."
Sometimes it's hard to smile when you say it though. /forums/images/graemlins/crazy.gif /forums/images/graemlins/crazy.gif /forums/images/graemlins/crazy.gif

 

[Moon]

Hey Andy,
I gotta go against the grain on this one. I think you guys made the right decision turning down the move. I hate being put in a spot like that where you can't think it thru or plan out the move. When it all has to happen that fast, I'd turn it down. Did just that 8 years ago when I was offered a job but had to be on the job in two weeks. I wanted the job, but to move the family sell the house and such ...it was just to much to quick. Turns out I was offered another one with ample time to plan out the move and all worked out for the better. You make your own opportunities at times, by applying to the right places and keep trying. The fact that the parent company of your employer was also in that area was an extra plus. But such a short notice reminds me of a saying one of our secretaries has up by her desk. "Don't expect your lack of planning to constitute an emergency on my part".

The right opportunity will come along ...don't fret.
Best of luck to you and your wife.

 

[BlueRidge]

</font><font color="blue" class="small">( Hey Andy,
I gotta go against the grain on this one. I think you guys made the right decision turning down the move. I hate being put in a spot like that where you can't think it thru or plan out the move. When it all has to happen that fast, I'd turn it down. ...

The right opportunity will come along ...don't fret.
Best of luck to you and your wife. )</font>

Yup. I remember being told once that snap decisions have a way of coming undone. Sure been true in my life. There are times when you have to move fast to take advantage of an opportunity, but that only works out well when you've already done your homework and were just waiting for the right opening.