The meaning of life...

[Steppenwolfe]

My wife and I have had a difficult year in the life department. First we lost our beloved Rocky Dog who was the center of our universe. Then my wife's mother, who was just an amazing woman. Third, my oldest friend, who I have known for 40 years died last week. I don't think I can handle much more. Combine this with the normal nostalgia this time of year, another year older, and the normal rat race in general, and I'm scrambling looking for answers. I feel I have lost my way. How do the rest of you deal with life when you feel everything is spinning out of control ?

 

[RobertBrown]

I'm sorry you are having tough times

I had a bad year too, it was much worse that yours (subjective... of course). You can take my word for it or we can have commiseration event. Anyway, life is like that and I've convinced myself that it has something to do with the calendar. When this year ends so will the rough times.
Furthermore, there are people everywhere, even here on TBN dealing with severe health issues including cancer. We lost at least one member that I know of to this dreaded disease this year.
You did not mention any health issues and you have your wife, so count your blessings and move on.

 

[robbyr]

Well from reading many of your posts lately we probably don't have much in common but I wish ya the best. When going thru rough patches I try telling myself the sun will shine another day. And when one door closes another one opens.
But number one in my book is






Hope you find comfort and relief.

 

[300UGUY]

I'm not sure. I guess I just keep going the best I can. I had a bunch of personal drama this year, I had a bone tumor removed, thankfully no cancer, then my dog Bubba died, then my wife got cancer. She had it removed and starts radiation next week. They caught it early, so the prognosis is very good. My mother inlaw just had a brain tumor removed last week, thankfully no cancer, but her speech is not good, and it will take time to get better. Then we just had 7 days of no power. I guess just focus on controlling the things you can.

 

[robbyr]

How do you manage seven days of no power? We went three in '08 with Hurricane Ike and I thought that was ****.

 

[300UGUY]

How do you manage seven days of no power? We went three in '08 with Hurricane Ike and I thought that was ****.

The bad part was the temps dropping into the single digits a couple days later. I probably stressed myself out a bit too much listening to the generator. I was terrified that the generator would go out, and the house would freeze up. I am even thinking about buying a backup for the backup now!!! So far this year, we have had 14 days without power, including 5 days in November and 7 in December. My wife just said One full day with power!!! I am putting in a woodstove very soon.

 

[dave1949]

I'm sorry you have had a tough year.

This time of year is known for increasing depression due the short days, and the holidays when we have time to dwell on things a bit, so keep that in mind. Get out in the daylight whenever you can. Think of all the things that are good in your life too. Make a mental list of your blessings.

Step back mentally and realize that these things are all part of normal life. They happen to all of us. They have to happen. Nothing in life lasts forever. Treasure your memories but don't dwell on what you cannot change.

Get out and have some fun. Make another person happy and share their joy.

 

[MossRoad]

My wife and I have had a difficult year in the life department. First we lost our beloved Rocky Dog who was the center of our universe. Then my wife's mother, who was just an amazing woman. Third, my oldest friend, who I have known for 40 years died last week. I don't think I can handle much more. Combine this with the normal nostalgia this time of year, another year older, and the normal rat race in general, and I'm scrambling looking for answers. I feel I have lost my way. How do the rest of you deal with life when you feel everything is spinning out of control ?

Sorry to hear of your losses this year. Its tough and can seem like someone's piling it on just to see how much you can take. Its easy to question life, your faith, etc... at times like that. But think about the good years. I'm guessing there are thousands of great memories in your past. And many more to come I'm sure. Its nothing more than a coincidence in time that loved one's pass away close to each other, or on someone else's birthday, or near a holiday, etc... it just happens. Given the choice, I'll bet none of them would choose to go near a day that would upset anyone, but we aren't afforded those choices when it comes to passing away. So, in tough times, I go outside for a walk. Or just sit near a window. Wait for a sunny day and feel the warmth on your face. Remember the folks you love. The ones that have gone and the ones that are still here. Give them a call. Or talk to your friends on TBN.

 

[Industrial Toys]

I spent almost a decade involving myself with spiritual (not religeous) pursuits. This after another disappointment in life and a virtual meltdown. In my investigations and leading to discussions with non biological entitties, I think I have some rather good notions about reality. First and foremost, most of us are here to evolve spiritually. Pain and suffering are all part of our created human reality. In a larger spiritual context, there is no distinction made between pain, pleasure, good and bad. It's ALL just experience. You are a spirit, will return to that relhm and all this non sense will be behind you. (not that there is any thing such as time, it is a human creation.) You may even wish to come back for more!

This earthly reality is an excellent learning environment, but it's a mistake to spend ones time focusing on how the system works. It would be like going to a movie but being more concerned with the screen and projector. That's NOT the object of the excercise! But it is important to try and live a life of reflection and honesty. Honesty with oneself, above all. This tends to involve the Ego. The culprit in almost all of misery on this planet. This insight and reflection will help you evolve at a faster rate.

So, I tried as best as I could to immerse myself back in pysical reality. I really only partly succeeded, for my heart is just not in it anymore. I live some sort of strange existence, where I do the functioning but another part of me is always it seems at arms length observing my actions and thoughts. STRANGE! And not a very pleasant way to live.

 

[riptides]

My wife and I have had a difficult year in the life department. First we lost our beloved Rocky Dog who was the center of our universe. Then my wife's mother, who was just an amazing woman. Third, my oldest friend, who I have known for 40 years died last week. I don't think I can handle much more. Combine this with the normal nostalgia this time of year, another year older, and the normal rat race in general, and I'm scrambling looking for answers. I feel I have lost my way. How do the rest of you deal with life when you feel everything is spinning out of control ?

There is a purpose for everything. You have to live each day and enjoy the people and animals that cross your path. When the time comes, the memories will fill the voids.