About the legalities of dpf deletes, highly illegal. It always has been, like cutting the converters out of a gasoline car. But allot of folks did it. But it's much more risky now. The tuning companies that provide the electronic portion of the delete have been all but shut down by the epa. It's become very difficult, and very expensive to delete diesel trucks. So if your considering it, better jump on it.
As stated, a 6-point-oh-no can be very reliable after some work. But so can a 6.4. If you catch a 6.4 before problems start and delete it, they are great. And yes, you can pretty much double the output with the touch of a few buttons afterwards. The reason for checking the difference between coolant and oil temps on either of these trucks is to diagnose a clogged oil cooler. The 6 liter head gasket problems were greatly reduced (nearly eliminated in my opinion) on the 6.4 with thicker head bolts. Tightening these is a workout. And the piston failures is almost always a direct correlation with regeneration. The dpf collects the black soot (particulate matter), filling up over time. So regen is like a self cleaning oven. It super heats to burn this PM out. It uses #7 and 8 cylinders to inject fuel on the exhaust stroke. 9 times out of 10 it's one of these pistons that I find bad. This process also pushes fuel past the rings into the oil, which can sometimes cause issues, but not often.
So the things to consider between the 2 if these are your choices: They both require their own form of bullet proofing and both need to be caught before something has blown. The 6.4 has the potential to be the cheaper fix depending on sourcing the electronics. And also potential for better performance if that's your thing. Technically, both trucks involve something illegal. The aforementioned dpf delete, and the 6 liter's egr delete. BUT, the 6.4 will show up if testing is done in your area, and is easier to be seen when driving. All law enforcement has to do if they are savvy on it is look for a black tail pipe. A 6.0 egr delete requires popping the hood and knowing where to look. And can be concealed entirely for that matter if one chose to do so.
In my area it's an easier decision because there's no smog tests and most law enforcement "understand". I'm sure this is very different elsewhere. In those places, the def systems are certainly more reliable and efficient. You guys singing the praises of the 6.7, I think they are great too. But wait till the turbo shaft snaps going down the road and fills the dpf with oil and ruins it. That gives a 6.0 bullet proof bill a run for its money.
And those having regen too often, you should consider finding a facility that can clean and back flush before it turns into the above problem