How to spend your legacy?

   / How to spend your legacy? #121  
On that note, does anyone use a written budget?

We never had one written down, but somehow managed to always be cognizant of what we had to spend each month and save accordingly. We kind of had an oral history of family finances that we handed down frequently over the years. 🤣
I keep a monthly budget since year 2000. As a side note, insurance, utilities and food have gone steadily up 14.8% since 1/1/20 to 1/1/23.
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #122  
Having a business means the business can do/buy whatever it needs. No need to ask anyone!
I always tell my “SO” (my wife) that I don’t own any tractors or equipment, my corp and my LLC do!

She gets that kind of stymied look on her face. Kinda funny actually
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #123  
On that note, does anyone use a written budget?

We never had one written down, but somehow managed to always be cognizant of what we had to spend each month and save accordingly. We kind of had an oral history of family finances that we handed down frequently over the years. 🤣
Once a year I do an Excel spreadsheet if that counts as written. The month by month allows for high months (like when property taxes are due) without skewing the average.
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #124  
Let's get to the real question. Exactly how much closet space do you need???
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #125  
Having a business means the business can do/buy whatever it needs. No need to ask anyone!
I always tell my “SO” (my wife) that I don’t own any tractors or equipment, my corp and my LLC do!

She gets that kind of stymied look on her face. Kinda funny actually
Same here. I'm an employee just like my wife is and EVERYTHING goes through the farm.
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #126  
Local man died and split 1 million dollars between his church, the township, and the local school system. Not what I would do but it's his money.

Jeff
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #127  
Local man died and split 1 million dollars between his church, the township, and the local school system. Not what I would do but it's his money.

Jeff
Which part?
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #128  
Which part?
All parts. School and township has received enough of my money thru taxes over the years. The church is not my thing. I like some the thought of local things and people getting help. Me personally, I have 3 kids and not enough money to worry about other people getting some of it.
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #129  
All parts. School and township has received enough of my money thru taxes over the years. The church is not my thing. I like some the thought of local things and people getting help. Me personally, I have 3 kids and not enough money to worry about other people getting some of it.
If you had a Mil to give away you would most certainly feel differently. I was just curious, if you were in that position, what you would do? :)
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #130  
Financial power is a dynamic thing. Entered my marriage with way more assets than the wife, she has more far more than I personally have now, after land titles were joined with, and her earlier retirement investments included. So Wills are an issue, as we have no children. Is it your family that gets stuff, or is it mine?
 
   / How to spend your legacy?
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#131  
One of my young employees years ago said he was moving in with his girlfriend and asked for advice since he knew I was good at managing money. I told him that you should split the bills evenly and keep the receipts. I never pried into his financial affairs after that.

After a couple of years they were splitting up and taking what they paid for. She took the car, the furniture and appliances and all her clothes and jewelry. He took the receipts for the groceries, the rent, and the utilities. :mad:
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #132  
Financial power is a dynamic thing. Entered my marriage with way more assets than the wife, she has more far more than I personally have now, after land titles were joined with, and her earlier retirement investments included. So Wills are an issue, as we have no children. Is it your family that gets stuff, or is it mine?
Could depend on who goes first.
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #133  
One of my young employees years ago said he was moving in with his girlfriend and asked for advice since he knew I was good at managing money. I told him that you should split the bills evenly and keep the receipts. I never pried into his financial affairs after that.

After a couple of years they were splitting up and taking what they paid for. She took the car, the furniture and appliances and all her clothes and jewelry. He took the receipts for the groceries, the rent, and the utilities. :mad:
Good trade. Getting rid of a bad relationship is priceless.
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #134  
I read that it's very common for women to consider the husbands income as "Their" money and her income to be "her" money. I think it's true in many cases. It certainly was with my brother and his wife. I see the same thing with one of our caregivers. The Gentlemens income goes to paying the bills, car loans, utilities etc. Her money she uses for them to go out to dinner and other frivolous things that she chooses.
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #135  
We've always combined everything as far as we are both on every account. She is way more frugal than I am but she keeps cash in several places both at home and at the Farm. I keep cash in only one place - my front pocket. I seldom spend any of it but if I find something I need it for I have it.

I stopped keeping money hid when a friend of mine told me about coming home one day and looked in the closet and a certain pair of shoes was missing. His Wife said she took them to a store like Goodwill or something because he had not worn them in years and asked what difference it made. He didn't wait to answer just took off as fast as possible to the store. He found the shoes, checked them and brought them home. He had $5K under the insoles of the shoes.

Don't keep money in the truck anymore after another friend lost $8K when someone broke into his truck.

I never say anything to her about what she buys because she is so frugal anyway. I am more impulsive than she is about spending large sums. She has tempered my desires on real estate a couple times and it has worked out better than my original plans but I've had my 'wins' too. It's all worked out well over time.
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #136  
We have wills. In case anything happens, everything goes to the other spouse. If we go together, it is split between the 2 kids. If I am the last, I plan on spending my money as needed and not be frugile. My hope is my last check bounces.

We have small animals. Often after death it is a pain for the family to decide where the small animals go. We have set up an endowment with part of our money to Texas A&M. They have a program to care for companion animals when the owner can no longer care for them.


 
   / How to spend your legacy? #137  
Let's get to the real question. Exactly how much closet space do you need???
Me. 1 partially filled in an extra bedroom.
Wife. The other 6 in the house, all crammed full.

Her mother and grandparents were hoarders. Apple does not fall far from the tree.

Hoarding.... should be a separate thread, if not one already.
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #138  
I have to give credit where it’s due, my wife is selfless with her income and considers none of it “hers”, but all of it “ours”. It goes right into our account and nobody cares who makes more than who. It’s just a pile of combined money and we fight the bills from it together.
She has an amazing pension coming at retirement in about 10-15 years.
I am a lucky guy.

Only downside is I got the MIL, but she is confined to basically 1 suite I built for her and is nearly bed ridden with dementia. She drives my wife nuts, but my wife takes care of it. I only had to build the suite in which she lives. None of my wife’s siblings will help her and they are written off from her life and will.
 
   / How to spend your legacy? #140  
He had $5K under the insoles of the shoes.
His wife must have really big feet. :cool:

I never had to hide money. I always knew where it was. It was in her purse or the "cookie jar".
 

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