Do you still have the original bolt on bucket?
I replaced mine with a quick attach setup, but I didn't install a torsion bar between the two sides. When I would change attachments, I noticed that the left side moved slower than the right side. This was a pain when hooking up as the two sides were always out of phase. So I welded in a torsion bar. It was the best piece of square tubing I had on hand. It was not sufficient and I twisted the tube. Then I had another problem to deal with in the dead of winter. I used a hack saw and cut out the tube. Now I am back to the issue of the two sides being out of phase.
I think that this contributed to the twisting of the tube and I won't bother replacing it until I figure out what is going on. My current working theory is that the left cylinder is farther away from the control valve and the internal friction/restrictions of the fluid flow caused the left to move slower.
Following this line of thinking, it would seem that you have some sort of similar problem. Perhaps some kind of restriction in one of the hoses or pipes between the right side and the left. The right side is retracting faster than the left and is putting undue pressure on the rod, causing it to bend.
Or, perhaps there is something else out alignment on the left side which causes the left cylinder to bind while retracting. Perhaps the loader frame itself is twisted or one of the mounting points is out of alignment.
Since this has happened multiple times, I would start with a flow test at each cylinder. Maybe just take all the lines loose at all the fittings and blow them out with air. Not definitive but may lead to a clue.
Also block up the loader on the stands and figure out a way to check the alignment of all the pivot points.
If you put the tractor on a flat surface and lower the bucket, do both sides make contact with the ground at the same time?