Women

[ultrarunner]

And plenty of gals, too.

On the other hand, plenty of folks have happy, successful marriages.

I dated my wife for 6 years before we got married.
My mom and dad dated 6 weeks before they got married.

I think the folks that plan an exit strategy before they're even married are just setting up an excuse to leave and probably shouldn't get married in the first place.

I realize things have changed but divorce is often initiated by the wife and I know too many guys that were nearly wiped out…

One became so bitter he dropped out of society… last I heard was living on the streets… said more than half of what I earned went to her and lawyers… he quit working.

My parents happily married… not once did I ever here them fight.

Mom was a saver… dad hard working.

 

[2LaneCruzer]

Happy wife, happy life.

Happy wife, more children!

 

[part-time-Farmer-NC]

Another oldie but goody, for the married ones....

It's cheaper to keep her....

 

[Torvy]

Another thing I discovered about my wife and me...if there is more than one way to do something, we will pick different ways. Once in awhile this is beneficial. Usually, it leads to confusion or unnecessary arguments as one of us is trying to explain our method to someone who sees the problem much differently.

Think of those pictures where some people see A and others see B. We always see the opposite.

 

[shooterdon]

Another oldie but goody, for the married ones....

It's cheaper to keep her....

Reminds me of a joke. If I had killed her twenty years ago, I would be out of jail now and a free man.

 

[tradosaurus]

Happy wife, happy life.

Uh....no. Not surrendering my man card.

 

[masseyrider]

Reminds me of a joke. If I had killed her twenty years ago, I would be out of jail now and a free man.

That's the problem, you can't live with them and you can't legally kill them.

 

[Jstpssng]

A former supervisor's been married 5 times since I worked for him 35 years ago.
He lost his truck. He lost his camp. By #5 all that he had left was his Mustang, so she took that. At some point he needs to realize that they are just using him for an ATM machine. If the marriage goes south, why is she entitled to what he brought into it?

 

[bcp]

Bruce

 

[MossRoad]

You might be right, or you have not lost half of your net worth...yet. A pre-nuptial agreement is not romantic but necessary IMO. Especially if you are older had have amassed some wealth.

If I was to "hitch up" to a woman with a high net worth I would want a pre-nupt to protect her and make it clear her money is not what I am after.

Half my net worth is my wife's from "I Do" anyway. I'd expect she'd get half. That was our agreement when we became one.

My brother in law went squirrelly in his mid 50s. Started hitting my sister. She filed for divorce immediately. He tried to hide the money from her. She had trusted him to handle all of the finances for 30 years, and didn't know where anything was. She just wanted everything split 50/50. He refused to disclose their net worth and all assets to the court for 2 years and finally was held in contempt.

Judge ordered him to pay for a forensic accountant. Accountant found they had about $2M at the time the divorce was filed. While he had delayed for 2 years 2008 happened. The market tanked, and the $2M was now worth about $1.4M. The judge ordered him to pay her the full $1M that her half of the estate was worth at the time the divorce was filed, not what it was worth that day. So instead of him getting 1/2 of $2M had he not delayed, she got $1M and he only got around $400K.... all because he was spiteful.

She was also entitled to 1/2 of his pension up until the time of divorce filing. But she couldn't get any of that until he retired. And he had to work longer to make up for what he lost. His dream was always to retire early. Had he just gone through with the divorce immediately, he still could have done that. Instead he had to work into his 70s.