I think the key is ensuring that whatever backhoe you decide to attach to your tractor is installed properly as it was designed to be installed.
Fears of breaking a tractor in half, or doing other damage, are valid if the backhoe is not installed properly, or maybe even if it is and it is not only used, but also abused.
There are things like heavy duty brackets and braces that are often required when a 3PH backhoe is used. These are added pieces and could be overlooked if a backhoe were purchased second hand and installed by someone who did not understand the requirements for his particular tractor.
I tend to give the manufacturer's engineers come credit, and since I have a 3PH backhoe and tractor made by the same company, and installed by the dealer following manufacturer guidelines, I don't feel too worried about it not having a true subframe.... /forums/images/graemlins/crazy.gif