I have had my 4100 since 1998. About 5 years after I bought it, I had started to have starting issues. When I turned the key on, the glow plug would not go on. I traced it to the glow plug relay. I replaced the relay and the problem came back a couple of years later. I rewired the glow plugs to a push button switch and never looked back.
About 10 years ago the tractor started to start hard again. I pulled the glow plug heaters out and tested each of them. They should start to heat up in about 3 seconds. All 3 were taking 5 to 10 seconds to start to heat up. They are NGK heaters and they be found online. The dealer was going to take 2 weeks to get them so I ordered them online and had them in 3 days. When I received them, I tested them before installing them. All 3 started to heat up at 3 seconds. After they were in, I checked each one with a volt meter to make sure each one had 12 volts.
I have found since that depending on weather I can control how much time the glow plugs are lit by how long I hold the button down. Summer about 3 seconds, winter 5 to 10 seconds. Works for me very well.
The important thing is to make sure each glow plug is getting 12 volts when the the glow plugs are turned on. The 4100 is a great tractor so don't give up on it.