Roger - I would have replied sooner to your eloquent and moving post, except that it moved me a little too much and I just couldn't respond to it right away.
That sad, sad story is repeated around two hundred and fifty times every year in the US. Two hundred and fifty fine men or women are killed, two hundred and fifty families are torn apart, over five hundred children just lost their mom or dad, and thousands of friends and relatives are left grieving, with an unfillable hole in their hearts and lives.
Sit down, buckle up, start engine.