Anyone ever use a Life Coach?

[gsganzer]

I've been in a funk lately and I'm trying to get myself back on track. I'm not depressed, just sort of at a crossroads of options and trying to figure out how to jump start my motivation.

Last year was a record year for my business, but the travel took a toll on me with over 265 days in hotels. It was hard, stressful and ultimately lead to a cardiac scare that turned out to be stress/diet/lifestyle induced. The weird part is you get addicted to the cycle of stress and the victory of overcoming crappy situations/problems.

This year, work started slow, which was fine for me at first, but I think the idle hands/mind are something that's beginning to grate on me. I started out the year exercising, losing 20+ lbs, eating healthy and getting ready for our family vacation to Africa a few weeks ago. Now that the vacation is over, I need to get rolling again, but my motivation is now non-existent. I think part of it is I'm afraid I'll get myself right back into the same stress/overworked predicament I was into last year.

But there are definitely some things I need to do. I need to get working on my company website so I can court some new customers, broaden my customer base, giving me some more stability and allowing me to be pickier on the type of jobs I take. I need to get back to the gym and take control of my health. And I need to get my wife and me back on track for our retirement goals so we can transition to retirement in the coming years (just turned 57 2 days ago). I just lack any motivation to do so. Financially we're still fine, but she quit working 18 months ago and seems to be in the same funk I'm in, with no motivation to go back to work. I'm sure part of it is mid-life crisis and the realization that our nest is about to be empty with our youngest a HS senior. Part of it is we're tired of the rat race and the current work/political climate. Maybe we're feeling the same malaise that has made so many drop out of the workforce?

So, I'm wondering if I should try a life coach for a little bit? I just need someone that can help break things down into small pieces and push me until my flame relights with a clearer path of what I want to do.

Anyone ever use a life coach or have some suggestions?

 

[workinonit]

Never used a life coach nor hope I never need to. Heck, I don't even know where I would find such a person. But, happy birthday!! I had a birthday on the 11th as well. I was 65. I too travel extensively for work and I can say there is zero glamor in it. I encounter people all the time that tell me how much they love to travel only to find out they take a trip or two a year. That ain't traveling. I was doing 150,000 miles a year until a few years ago and like you in a hotel 200 plus nights a year. That alone is enough to need a psychologist.

 

[ultrarunner]

Probably more common than you might think and the pandemic is still taking a toll motivating more to rethink what is important in life.

As to life coach I know a few that have used and in my view from the sidelines in simplest terms the process is a way to give yourself permission to take control.

Several of my friends… mostly ex career military are happy as can be as ex-pats to the point of a new lease on life… remains to be seen long term but some have around ten years in.

 

[MossRoad]

Never hurts to talk to someone.

 

[Snobdds]

Here is what I've learned...

Business travel sucks. I avoid it like the plague. There is nothing romantic about it. It's tiring and so unnecessary in todays world. I have two major business travel things I have to do each year, the rest I let someone else do.

Be replaceable. Don't ever get into a place where you are the only one capable of doing something. You want to be able to tell someone, take care of it and not have a second thought that something won't get done.

Hire people that are better than you are. Never strive to be the best, strive to have your team be the best collectively.

It's ok to say, we'll do it tomorrow.

 

[Torvy]

I thought TBN was a life coach!

 

[gsganzer]

I thought TBN was a life coach!

I've certainly used it solve a number of non-tractor related issues over the years! Always some good input and feedback from the TBN crew on whatever question you ask.

 

[RjCorazza]

I'm sure there are some good Life Coaches out there, but I would be hesitant to talk to just anyone that claimed to be one. If you can get over the terminology, perhaps a better option would be to chat with a licenced therapist / social worker to get yourself back on track.

 

[Sigarms]

I've been in a funk lately and I'm trying to get myself back on track. I'm not depressed, just sort of at a crossroads of options and trying to figure out how to jump start my motivation.

Last year was a record year for my business, but the travel took a toll on me with over 265 days in hotels. It was hard, stressful and ultimately lead to a cardiac scare that turned out to be stress/diet/lifestyle induced. The weird part is you get addicted to the cycle of stress and the victory of overcoming crappy situations/problems.

This year, work started slow, which was fine for me at first, but I think the idle hands/mind are something that's beginning to grate on me. I started out the year exercising, losing 20+ lbs, eating healthy and getting ready for our family vacation to Africa a few weeks ago. Now that the vacation is over, I need to get rolling again, but my motivation is now non-existent. I think part of it is I'm afraid I'll get myself right back into the same stress/overworked predicament I was into last year.

But there are definitely some things I need to do. I need to get working on my company website so I can court some new customers, broaden my customer base, giving me some more stability and allowing me to be pickier on the type of jobs I take. I need to get back to the gym and take control of my health. And I need to get my wife and me back on track for our retirement goals so we can transition to retirement in the coming years (just turned 57 2 days ago). I just lack any motivation to do so. Financially we're still fine, but she quit working 18 months ago and seems to be in the same funk I'm in, with no motivation to go back to work. I'm sure part of it is mid-life crisis and the realization that our nest is about to be empty with our youngest a HS senior. Part of it is we're tired of the rat race and the current work/political climate. Maybe we're feeling the same malaise that has made so many drop out of the workforce?

So, I'm wondering if I should try a life coach for a little bit? I just need someone that can help break things down into small pieces and push me until my flame relights with a clearer path of what I want to do.

Anyone ever use a life coach or have some suggestions?

I'm wondering if you actually need a life coach or perhaps a business consultant?

Travel for work sucks, particularly if you have a family, no way around that. When I was single, tell me where you want me to go, and I'll be there. It helped me advance in my career, but after I got married in my late 30's, bought a house and work around the house, I've found I don't really like to travel for work anymore out of state that requires air travel. My boss was just asking me if I wanted to go to Houston, and I found myself saying that I'd prefer not to and see if he can send someone else.

I know nothing about your business, but is there any chance for what you would end up paying for a life coach, if you hired someone you could trust to do your traveling to free you up on the home-front for work?

I've always found any type of consultant to be interesting when a business deals with them. For some reason people think that the more they pay for a consultant, the better advice they get. I scratch my head because I've seen first hand that this is always not the case. My old boss had a life coach. Perhaps it was just me, but they seemed to be too much like a cheerleader.

Honestly, 265 days out of a year in a hotel for work while you're married, and I honestly think any man who had a good family would be in a funk spending that much time away from "home". That's just me.

 

[bmg88201]

I use GOD as my life coach. No appointment needed.