I grew up working blacktop so here ya go.
You will need a vibratory tamper, you can rent one for a day. You need to put in about 4-6in of 2B modified stone and tamp it with the wacker.
Go to the asphalt plant and they will drop into your pickup. AC is sold by weight so you scale your truck first and then scale it loaded. You can do the entire job with top (small stones) Binder (big stones) makes a cheaper base and lets water run through it some but for what you are doing you are better off doing 2 lifts of top. Tarp your load, to help keep it hot.
Put your first lift in to about a inch below final. Use a heavy rake to level it. Tamp it, make sure the water tank on the wacker is full and working. The water keeps the asphalt from sticking to the wacker. If the wacker you have doesnt have a water tank, take a old paint brush dipped in fuel oil, or desiel fuel (same thing) and paint the wacker plate. DO NOT SPILL THE FUEL OIL ON THE BLACKTOP, it will eat it up. Use the fuel oil and brush on your shovel and rake to keep them clean also.
Put your second lift on making it approx 1/4 of an inch higher than existing right at the edge. Use the flat of the rake (points up) to level it. The less you have to work it, the better off you are. Getting the top nice takes a little bit of a eye and a light hand. A lute, actual asphalt tool for top, would be the best thing, but a rake will work. Wack it from old to new to old. Dont turn the wacker on the new, you will gouge it. Let is sit for 1/2 an hour, wack it again. By this time it should be pretty well set.
Dont use cold patch, waste of time and money. If you can get some base material asphalt BM (hot tar) and pour it on the edges of the hole before you start, it will help the patch adhear to the existing. If you pour the BM around the edge of the patch when you are done, it will help keep water from getting in between the old and new. Throw some sand on the "tar" when you are done and it wont be as inclined to pick up on your tires.
Ya know what? I just read this whole thing and my reccomendation is hire someone /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif