A saying (old Nordic, IIRC) that I've come to appreciate is "You can get used to anything, even a Hanging".....The big drawback in my mind to hydrogen cars is the image of some stoned drunk soccer mom trying to self-serve 3000 psi compressed hydrogen into her car full of kids. Hydrogen infrastructure ends with somebody's hand on the nozzle.
A wiser person than I said "If gasoline had been produced 100 years later, Legal would never have let it out the door" - meaning from a Safety standpoint. It is such a pervasive part of modern life during our lifetimes, that we don't really think about it...... and I say this, as a ICE fan.
I like hydrogen. Building a consensus in industry (while companies scrap over First Mover etc....) is usually not easy - today's EV market a current (pun-intended) example.
That ^ said, I suspect it would be relatively simple (given the tech we drown in every-day) to design a smart-interlock connector system so it would be next to impossible to pass hydrogen unless the mating connectors were fully locked.
Contrast that with today's self-serve gasoline pumps - absolutely nothing prevents you from taking the hose and going all Billy Jack on the guy on the other side of the pump, or your car load of passengers. Again, I say that, liking ICE..... it's just the Hanging we've gotten used to.....
I agree with your point about Hydrogen being a great large-scale storage buffer. And, it's an old story....... something close to 40 years ago now, a company called Canadian Hydrolyzer (sp?) was using PV panels to crack water. You can sell the oxygen too, and that type of large scale capacity would have been really useful, the last year....
Rgds, D.