Thanks everyone for the input. I greatly appreciate it. Rustyiron brings up a great point that I'm definitely keeping in mind. Tractors are not dozers and loaders are designed to lift, not push.
I do have some stumps, but my plans is to hire an excavator to pop them out, then I'll lift them with the grapple and put them where I want (I've spoken to two, but since it's been radio silence--I think anyone in that line of work, even at small-scale, is insanely busy these days with the real estate/housing and construction boom). Other uses are large-ish rocks (maybe up to 1,000lbs? I really have no idea how much a small boulder weighs), but not "digging" the rocks, only lifting them and placing them else where if they're in the way. I imagine using the grapple with rocks and stumps at most 5-10% of the time. Most of the work I envision will be lifting and moving logs (up to 16' saw logs, but most 8-10' firewood logs), and moving some brush piles around (but not pushing brush/roots around).
As far as the 72" vs 60" I guess what I like about the 60" is I can get a much heavier duty grapple but still keep it in the 800lb range. There's nothing special about 800lbs, but those heavier duty 72" grapples start running 1,000lbs+ which I fear starts limiting lift capacity and making the tractor front-heavy.
I don't really like the L-shaped/bucket grapples. They seem great at scooping large piles of brush and they're a bit lighter (due to lighter steel I imagine) but from my standpoint the clamshell-style looks to be a better fit.