It varies from state to state on state highways and county roads. Anything federally funded (a US RT or Interstate) is covered by federal laws limiting weight. 34000# on tandem axles, 43000# on tri-axles, 18000# on a steer axle (depending on tire width.) Maximum loads depend on number of axles and overall axle spread. We could get about 12 yards on a 5 axle truck, about 32,000#. They just bought some 7 axle trucks that can haul 24 tons or so. We had a set of belly dumps with 7 axles (counting the tractor) that could gross 105,500 but they were the evception, 8 axles for that weight was more common.
Tailgating was the term we used to not set the spreader chains and just dump gradually while on the move, it would typically spread a box of pitrun 10" thick and 50 or so feet long. For a driveway we would set the chains and spread evenly, usually 3 to four inches thick.
Gravel is usually sold by the ton or by the yard, nearly all I dealt with scaled the truck and gave a scale ticket that had the a the truck company and truck number, the weight in and out and net and a time stamp. Any questions, ask to see the scale ticket.
That is all correct. All I referring to was a tandem which is by definition a 3 axle truck. I don't know anywhere you can legally haul 24 tons on a three axle truck or even axles that are rated for that much weight.