Heath,
I learned the "hard way" on my NH. After discussing the problem with my dealer, he informed me that you "must" have the tractor off when installing or removing the quick-connect. With the tractor running, the pump is still producing pressure, even though you move the controls in all directions. His advice is to place the bucket flat on the ground and lift the loader high enough so that all of the weight is on the stand. This will eliminate the possiblity of weight on a tipped bucket/loader arm from pressurizing the system. So, lift the loader, flatten the bucket, turn off the tractor, exercise the controls in all directions, and then disconnect the hoses. Works every time.
If the hoses are pressurized when it is time to re-install, the best way to relieve the pressure is by covering the connector with a rag (learned this the "hard way" as well. Have you ever had a hydraulic oil shower?) and tapping it with a block of wood or a brass hammer. Good luck.