I never said there was flow to the cyl with the valve in neutral.
When you lower the bucket and raise the front wheels off the ground, and release the levers, that is a done deal.
If those cyl are good, the machine should stay in that position.
One your cyls are set, the the loader relief is separate from the lift and curl.
The relief is still usable if it is the first relief in the hyd circuit, and protects the pump for any downstream operation such as the BH.
You should have full pump flow and pressure to the BH.
A flow and pressure test will tell you a lot about your hyd system.
It involves a flow meter, pressure gauge, relief valve and needle valve.
Your relief setting on the BH should be the same or higher than the loader relief valve.